climbing guy still in love with someone else?
so I noticed that climbing guy showed me his photos of himself and his friends climbing, and I notice that he is always standing very close to this asian girl who is his friend that he climbs with. Now that in itself is not an issue, but he's got heaps of shots of her smiling and climbing and being the fun interesting girl that is her. she's of course gorgeous and looks like a nice person, but the sheer amount of shots of her on his computer kinds of indicates that he likes her a lot, or likes her more than a friend. So I happen to ask him about her today, in terms of 'you seem to get a long really well her 'insert name' , so did you never want to be with her/date her?' . so his response was 'she got out of relationship and that's when we got close and I got placed in the friend zone' . I felt really bad asking about her, and really bad with the answer and I asked and he was honest.
I feel really bad because I can see that he really was 'in love' with her, or had strong emotions for her, and that he is still very much in touch with her. I don't know if I am somehow a substitute for her or that if I remind him of her, as she is dating someone else now. so maybe he missed his chance and he still loves her but can't be with her?
It feels weird, but I think it's true, I should give him the opportunity to admit it and go after her and let him be with her as is what I think he wants? Because they still see each other very regularly and they've never not being in touch, and apparently she doesn't know that he feels that way?
the other side of the coin is that I could be completely crazy and that he likes me for me? but I don't think he knows me well enough to really know me or to like me for who I am yet ? I not exactly the easiest person to fall for, I have a hard outer shell and a horrible chip on my shoulders and I am not the most gentle or the most temperate of people to say the least. I feel horribly inadequate right now, or like I'm in a competition with someone that he is holding up on a pedestal? I am never going to be that girl that he fell inadvertently that he's shared multitude of experiences with. I don't want compete with her, and I don't want him to settle for me. I don't want to be someone that the other person settles for.
the other thing is that he is quite hard to read, and I don't know if I'm slightly crazy or paranoid or everything. but such is life.
will try to keep this updated. I don't know if I will have to make all these friends only which I have done with hossein.
signing off mw
I feel really bad because I can see that he really was 'in love' with her, or had strong emotions for her, and that he is still very much in touch with her. I don't know if I am somehow a substitute for her or that if I remind him of her, as she is dating someone else now. so maybe he missed his chance and he still loves her but can't be with her?
It feels weird, but I think it's true, I should give him the opportunity to admit it and go after her and let him be with her as is what I think he wants? Because they still see each other very regularly and they've never not being in touch, and apparently she doesn't know that he feels that way?
the other side of the coin is that I could be completely crazy and that he likes me for me? but I don't think he knows me well enough to really know me or to like me for who I am yet ? I not exactly the easiest person to fall for, I have a hard outer shell and a horrible chip on my shoulders and I am not the most gentle or the most temperate of people to say the least. I feel horribly inadequate right now, or like I'm in a competition with someone that he is holding up on a pedestal? I am never going to be that girl that he fell inadvertently that he's shared multitude of experiences with. I don't want compete with her, and I don't want him to settle for me. I don't want to be someone that the other person settles for.
the other thing is that he is quite hard to read, and I don't know if I'm slightly crazy or paranoid or everything. but such is life.
will try to keep this updated. I don't know if I will have to make all these friends only which I have done with hossein.
signing off mw