What to do when you're single on Valentine's.
So that time of the year is coming again. Actually, "that" implies that it only happens once. Nowadays any holiday regardless of its roots is an excuse for marketers to say "do you love him/her? Show him/her with this. Because they won't be happy otherwise and you'll break up the next day. For realz."
Anyway, a couple of my friends (not myself, surprisingly, but I'll go into that later) are feeling goddamn miserable about the fact that they're going to be single on Valentine's day. Maybe it's because they're a bit older than me, and that extra year of not having someone to cuddle is a big difference (/sarcasm), but as much as I sympathise and empathise, I honestly don't think it's a big deal. Well, no bigger a deal than it is to be perpetually single any other day of the year.
For me, Valentine's will be the same as any other day. I'll wake up, do my toilette and all and then watch some anime, head out, probably go to the library, come home because the library's boring, watch some more anime, and then do some planning for St John and that conference I'm helping out with.
I don't see why any one day should make you feel worse about being single. Hell, I don't see why any day should make you feel bad about being single. I recently learned that my existence (I emphasise 'my' because I don't want to imply that this is the case for everyone, and it's just my opinion) is solely so that others will achieve. Simply put, I can't feel like I'm being my best unless I've encouraged someone else to be the same. I need to be around others, but that doesn't mean I need to have a boyfriend. Frankly, I feel that being tied to someone else would hold me back from being my best for even more people.
Someone quite rudely stated to the guy who was upset that he didn't want a girlfriend, he wanted the status of having a girlfriend, which while I can't deny was a bit true, really signified just how lonely this guy was. But in my opinion, you can't really learn to love and respect others until you love and respect yourself. That may sound hypocritical to my first statement, but it's not. I do love and respect myself, (and I have a huge ego to prove it) but I don't feel like I'm at my best when I'm in a little bubble.
If you want my honest opinion, the best cure for the loneliness that comes with being single on V Day is to get out there. I don't mean go on dating sites and speed dating activities (of which there are plenty at the moment due to O-week), but find something you like to do that involves other people. Not only are you doing something you like, but you're meeting people who have the same interests as you. You're ten times more likely to find someone there than you are by asking your friends if they know any single people. And if you want proof, the only people who have asked me out have all been from theatre or St John (actually, this works as counter-evidence too, since I turned every single one of them down).
And remember everyone, chocolate ice-cream and chick flicks are not the answer. Really. They just make everything ten times worse.
Anyway, a couple of my friends (not myself, surprisingly, but I'll go into that later) are feeling goddamn miserable about the fact that they're going to be single on Valentine's day. Maybe it's because they're a bit older than me, and that extra year of not having someone to cuddle is a big difference (/sarcasm), but as much as I sympathise and empathise, I honestly don't think it's a big deal. Well, no bigger a deal than it is to be perpetually single any other day of the year.
For me, Valentine's will be the same as any other day. I'll wake up, do my toilette and all and then watch some anime, head out, probably go to the library, come home because the library's boring, watch some more anime, and then do some planning for St John and that conference I'm helping out with.
I don't see why any one day should make you feel worse about being single. Hell, I don't see why any day should make you feel bad about being single. I recently learned that my existence (I emphasise 'my' because I don't want to imply that this is the case for everyone, and it's just my opinion) is solely so that others will achieve. Simply put, I can't feel like I'm being my best unless I've encouraged someone else to be the same. I need to be around others, but that doesn't mean I need to have a boyfriend. Frankly, I feel that being tied to someone else would hold me back from being my best for even more people.
Someone quite rudely stated to the guy who was upset that he didn't want a girlfriend, he wanted the status of having a girlfriend, which while I can't deny was a bit true, really signified just how lonely this guy was. But in my opinion, you can't really learn to love and respect others until you love and respect yourself. That may sound hypocritical to my first statement, but it's not. I do love and respect myself, (and I have a huge ego to prove it) but I don't feel like I'm at my best when I'm in a little bubble.
If you want my honest opinion, the best cure for the loneliness that comes with being single on V Day is to get out there. I don't mean go on dating sites and speed dating activities (of which there are plenty at the moment due to O-week), but find something you like to do that involves other people. Not only are you doing something you like, but you're meeting people who have the same interests as you. You're ten times more likely to find someone there than you are by asking your friends if they know any single people. And if you want proof, the only people who have asked me out have all been from theatre or St John (actually, this works as counter-evidence too, since I turned every single one of them down).
And remember everyone, chocolate ice-cream and chick flicks are not the answer. Really. They just make everything ten times worse.