I am so proud of myself!!!
I have never been rude to people, it is just something my parents instilled in me.
Last year when David and Patty, Joseph's father and step mother, visited last summer she made some amazingly rude comments. I should be ashamed to walk down the aisle at my wedding. I shouldn't have a wedding because I already had a child. How could my father give me away when I already gave myself away.
She crossed a major line. I am not religious, but I am not immoral. She was saying some terrible things. I was pissed.
Everytime she has visited I get anxiety attacks, because I am not able deal with the shit she says. I don't fight back because I just wasn't raised that way. But recently we asked David for some help with the wedding. Mainly the rehearsal dinner. He agreed after talking to Patty, and stated I would have to work with both of them. Tonight I put my foot down. I asked that she not be involved. I informed him that I am a pleasant person, and sometimes too nice for my own good. I have taken enough, and it has been going on since the day I met her. He comes with this "well intentioned" line. No.. my mom who asks sometimes if I feel ok with everything is well intentioned. My dad who asks if I am happy is well intentioned. Someone who while stuck in a car in a hour ride who asks "Do you believe in God" IS NOT WELL INTENTIONED.
I gave one final chance. But advised David he needs ot make sure she is on her best behavior, and if any of the shit starts up again, Joe will be handing down the notification that she is out. And from then on she will be out permanently. I will NOT deal with stuff, around my wedding, around my son, around my entire life. I am not going to have anxiety attacks, that cause me to be unable to eat, causes me to sleep 14 hours, and just be miserable. The last visit was awful. I couldn't eat for the entire week before they came, and the whole time they were here. I thought I had this major anxiety problem. Turns out, she just makes me feel that ill.
Last year when David and Patty, Joseph's father and step mother, visited last summer she made some amazingly rude comments. I should be ashamed to walk down the aisle at my wedding. I shouldn't have a wedding because I already had a child. How could my father give me away when I already gave myself away.
She crossed a major line. I am not religious, but I am not immoral. She was saying some terrible things. I was pissed.
Everytime she has visited I get anxiety attacks, because I am not able deal with the shit she says. I don't fight back because I just wasn't raised that way. But recently we asked David for some help with the wedding. Mainly the rehearsal dinner. He agreed after talking to Patty, and stated I would have to work with both of them. Tonight I put my foot down. I asked that she not be involved. I informed him that I am a pleasant person, and sometimes too nice for my own good. I have taken enough, and it has been going on since the day I met her. He comes with this "well intentioned" line. No.. my mom who asks sometimes if I feel ok with everything is well intentioned. My dad who asks if I am happy is well intentioned. Someone who while stuck in a car in a hour ride who asks "Do you believe in God" IS NOT WELL INTENTIONED.
I gave one final chance. But advised David he needs ot make sure she is on her best behavior, and if any of the shit starts up again, Joe will be handing down the notification that she is out. And from then on she will be out permanently. I will NOT deal with stuff, around my wedding, around my son, around my entire life. I am not going to have anxiety attacks, that cause me to be unable to eat, causes me to sleep 14 hours, and just be miserable. The last visit was awful. I couldn't eat for the entire week before they came, and the whole time they were here. I thought I had this major anxiety problem. Turns out, she just makes me feel that ill.