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[twitchfetish]

So I was at Ikea yesterday with feybles buying my gf's xmas gift.  On the way back to the car, we were walking with our trolley behind a woman and her young teen daughter struggling with a full trolley and a full flatbed trolley full of flat-pack.  Of course the way I was raised said "help", so I asked them if they wanted a hand.  After a little shock,

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[jagwire]

Wow. Epic post is epic. And I agree entirely on all points

[twitchfetish]

And that's part of my point. The fact she wouldn't have if it were just you is sad, but the fact none else even stopped is just pathetic. Iunno. There has to be some way to remedy this. One thing I've noticed though is women aren't as up in arms anymore about guys holding doors etc. I'm hoping it means the ultra-PC thing is wearing off...

[z_dragonmaster]

My car once broke down at the first set of traffic lights coming off the Bruce highway driving into the city. As in, my car was first in line at the red lights, then on the green lights, travelled 5 meters then stopped in the middle of the intersection with miles of cars behind me. Super embarassing

[twitchfetish]

I most certainly didn't take offense. My point was through it was sad that she felt she had to offer. I took it exactly as you said, an expression of grtitude, but it got me thinking, hence the post.

Glad you're enjoying FA. It's pretty spectacular :)

[z_dragonmaster]

I'm glad you offered to help.

It was also a pleasure to read those last paragraphs about not being offended by "Merry Christmas" "bless you" etc etc. That it is their language and it is a token of their wishing well is exactly correct.

As for the offering of money, I wouldn't get offended. It's just their way of expressing in their language that they were very appreciative of your efforts. Of course I would not have accepted that money either, but the offer was very kind of them. They could have shrugged you off and then who knows, you could have been here posting about the rude bitch who used your help and didn't appreciate it :P

People aren't mind readers and won't be able to tell straight away whether others will find something rude or polite, whether they believe in Christmas or not, or take issue with saying bless you. Learning to listen to their language is soooo important and it was a pleasure to see someone else say it.

Sounds like a good day all round.

[feybles]

Was an amusing mission out and about for the day hon. The look on your face when you first saw the IKEA building in itself was worth it! :)

Seriously, it makes me cry inside how many people react when you're helpful or nice to them these days... I hear you.

*smiles*

[sa_arine]

Absolutely agree, does me good to hear of another person who believes that courtesy and consideration need to be brought back and is also trying to remedy the lack in the world these days. I can get pretty ranty about the lack in fact sometimes. I too have been wished a "merry christmas", and though I am not, I accepted it because it was something expressed in genuine kindness for a change. I get tired of this air of self-entitlement that pervades, and try never to walk by an opportunity to extend a hand:) Whatever time of the year it happens to be! Oh and this whole thing these days about not being able to say "merry christmas" because "happy holidays" is more pc? Sheesh, how come people can't show a little tolerance, and just take things in the light and spirit in which it was meant in the first place? I think that could apply to a number of things...

[7lifeuncommon7]

What a great post, TwitcH!

I particularly like your postscript. Another guy on my f-list once made a post whinging that his university had in an email to students well-wishes to any American students for Independence Day. The consensus of those who replied was just as you said. One has to be a special kind of jerk to complain when someone is trying to be nice to them.