Jesus CHRIST, Ryan! I'm so sorry to hear about your neighbor, and even sorrier to see the 3rd drunk post in..what..a week?
I'm not going to be a bitch, and I'm not going to pretend like I know you well after 3 years, but I am going to do the "tough love" thing. I think you're a good guy, and I can tell you're frustrated, but this is ridiculous. You should have some dim memories of your pre-alcohol life that could guide you as to what else you could do.
Want a list of things to do other than drink? 1) Read a book 2) Play video games 3) Study something 4) Invite someone who sits next to you in class to watch a movie 5) Watch a movie 6) Go see a movie 7) Call someone just to say hi 8) Organize something yourself 9) Try out for something - a play, an a capella group, a musical, an open mike night 10) Listen to really obscure music really loud and see who comes to your door to either complain or say how much they love that band too 11) Leave your door open while you do any of the above things and see who you meet 12) Get out of your dorm and go to some random activity that none of your current friends are going to. 13) Go to a party where everyone's drinking and see what happens if you don't drink. This, actually, I think is really important because it helped me a lot to realize a) I can still have fun that way, but b) yeah it's awkward and c)my friends really make asses of themselves and d) It's possible to drink without getting so hammered life seems pointless.
14) If it's stressing you out to be alone, get where there are people. Go to your dorm lounge, go to a coffeeshop...when the weather gets nicer, go sit on a blanket outside with a frisbee.
15) Get outside even if the weather's not nice, move around, get some air and exercise. It's lame, but that's what's pulled me out of depression (seasonal and otherwise) time and time again.
16) Maybe go talk to someone if nothing is helping. Your school has to have a counseling center, probably 6 free sessions a semester or something. You should realize that as personal and painful as your problems are, they are not new to the world, and there is something or someone out there that can help YOU fix it.
I'm not going to be a bitch, and I'm not going to pretend like I know you well after 3 years, but I am going to do the "tough love" thing. I think you're a good guy, and I can tell you're frustrated, but this is ridiculous. You should have some dim memories of your pre-alcohol life that could guide you as to what else you could do.
Want a list of things to do other than drink?
1) Read a book
2) Play video games
3) Study something
4) Invite someone who sits next to you in class to watch a movie
5) Watch a movie
6) Go see a movie
7) Call someone just to say hi
8) Organize something yourself
9) Try out for something - a play, an a capella group, a musical, an open mike night
10) Listen to really obscure music really loud and see who comes to your door to either complain or say how much they love that band too
11) Leave your door open while you do any of the above things and see who you meet
12) Get out of your dorm and go to some random activity that none of your current friends are going to.
13) Go to a party where everyone's drinking and see what happens if you don't drink. This, actually, I think is really important because it helped me a lot to realize a) I can still have fun that way, but b) yeah it's awkward and c)my friends really make asses of themselves and d) It's possible to drink without getting so hammered life seems pointless.
14) If it's stressing you out to be alone, get where there are people. Go to your dorm lounge, go to a coffeeshop...when the weather gets nicer, go sit on a blanket outside with a frisbee.
15) Get outside even if the weather's not nice, move around, get some air and exercise. It's lame, but that's what's pulled me out of depression (seasonal and otherwise) time and time again.
16) Maybe go talk to someone if nothing is helping. Your school has to have a counseling center, probably 6 free sessions a semester or something. You should realize that as personal and painful as your problems are, they are not new to the world, and there is something or someone out there that can help YOU fix it.
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