Boys...ugh
Last week, Chris and I had a disagreement which he still says was a misunderstanding. Basically it came down to the fact that it was Sunday or Monday night and he still hadn't made reservations for Valentines Day. While looking for a restaurant on opentable, he made a comment that when he did this for his ex, he booked like a month in advance because he was still trying to impress her. So what the hell does that mean? I'll just settle for whatever? I was so irritated with him; I ended up not speaking to him for the rest of the night and we went to bed. He wanted to talk about it the next day and I explained how last year I had a shitty Valentine's Day (the guy I was seeing basically ditched me to go drinking in west Chester, I injured my knee on black ice, and while on our way out to dinner, my moms ex bf showed up and took us to dinner, making me a third wheel.) then he basically thought I was pouting because we couldn't get dinner at some fancy place, which was not the case. I had to explain that the reason I was pissed off is he made it sound like he didn't need to put any effort into Valentine's Day whereas he planned it out for his ex like a month in advance. At that point, I didn't even want to try and get a restaurant reservation, especially after I would be working for 9 hours prior. So he decided to make me dinner. He made lasagna and brought me a vase of mixed flowers.
Then this week we were going to hang out and oops, he had to hang out with his cousin instead, but how about we hang out on Thursday? Which is my mid shift day. Obviously I was irritated and didn't answer any of his texts so he calls me and I sound irritated but I hang up pretty quick. I told him I had plans on Thursday (I dont) but I'm getting sick of him waiting until the day of to figure things out. His response. Come over after, you know I stay up late. I'll even take you out to breakfast. I'm just so annoyed that he feels like he can just decide were going to hang out without asking hey, I know you're working this day but do you want to do something after? Ugh, freaking control freaks. Plus I think when Jess and I were talking about him today, I got into my own head a bit. He's an only child and obviously used to getting his way. She had asked me how everything was going with him and I told her we've only been dating for three months (as of the 9/10) and that we were still in our honeymoon phase: plenty of time to screw things up (or something along those lines). She just looked at me and said do you believe that? And did you say that to him? The way I see it is that somehow or another, people piss me off. Around the 6 month mark, something usually happens to make me break up with them. Hence 6 months is my longest relationship. He went from a five year relationship (including moving in when he knew he wanted to get married and she didn't, and not agreeing on future goals) to sleeping with a whole bunch of girls after they broke up (making up for lost time).
I just feel like he's not being a jerk on purpose, he just says things in a way that he doesn't realize upsets people. I'm not sure if I'm the one being over sensitive or he really is being a brat and I should be mad. Either way, I don't think i want to see him Thursday; I need to stop worrying about him for a minute. I think we've been moving so fast; it's finally catching up to me a bit. Hell, not two months in, we went to DC for Nye and NJ for my birthday and next month we are going to AC.
Then this week we were going to hang out and oops, he had to hang out with his cousin instead, but how about we hang out on Thursday? Which is my mid shift day. Obviously I was irritated and didn't answer any of his texts so he calls me and I sound irritated but I hang up pretty quick. I told him I had plans on Thursday (I dont) but I'm getting sick of him waiting until the day of to figure things out. His response. Come over after, you know I stay up late. I'll even take you out to breakfast. I'm just so annoyed that he feels like he can just decide were going to hang out without asking hey, I know you're working this day but do you want to do something after? Ugh, freaking control freaks. Plus I think when Jess and I were talking about him today, I got into my own head a bit. He's an only child and obviously used to getting his way. She had asked me how everything was going with him and I told her we've only been dating for three months (as of the 9/10) and that we were still in our honeymoon phase: plenty of time to screw things up (or something along those lines). She just looked at me and said do you believe that? And did you say that to him? The way I see it is that somehow or another, people piss me off. Around the 6 month mark, something usually happens to make me break up with them. Hence 6 months is my longest relationship. He went from a five year relationship (including moving in when he knew he wanted to get married and she didn't, and not agreeing on future goals) to sleeping with a whole bunch of girls after they broke up (making up for lost time).
I just feel like he's not being a jerk on purpose, he just says things in a way that he doesn't realize upsets people. I'm not sure if I'm the one being over sensitive or he really is being a brat and I should be mad. Either way, I don't think i want to see him Thursday; I need to stop worrying about him for a minute. I think we've been moving so fast; it's finally catching up to me a bit. Hell, not two months in, we went to DC for Nye and NJ for my birthday and next month we are going to AC.