Lesson:

[troismarteaux]

"Just as it’s insulting to pretty much anyone’s integral personhood to think that all relationships come from a place of dissatisfaction with one’s own company, so is it insulting to poly people to see non-monogamy as coming from a place of dissatisfaction with a single relationship. I don’t require multiple partners to meet some intimidatingly long list of relationship needs that one person couldn’t possibly fulfil alone. In fact I don’t require multiple partners at all. I require the freedom to pursue people with whom I connect, plain and simple-whether that means I end up with five partners or none. The existence of a range of desires does not come with a requirement for their necessary fulfilment at all times. In fact, for many people, regardless of their range of desires, it simply wouldn’t be practically possible to fulfil them all at once, even if the appropriately matched individuals all showed up at once."

- from a blog entry I found through other poly folk. So much truth & clarity in one wee paragraph.