On the star we count our hopes
Just a quick request for the few people who actually read this...
Can you keep my friend Chris in your thoughts and prayers? He's in the middle of a custody "battle" with his soon to be ex-wife over sole custody of their daughter. I have mentioned this situation a few times but here's a run down....
They meet while he was teaching English in South Korea. Where she's from.
This past summer they got married. He later admitted they had doubts weeks prior but were too ashamed to call it off.
They were planning on waiting a year before they tried for a baby. She conceived on the honeymoon.
Yasmine was born about a month early and had a tumor and few other health issues.
Throughout the entire pregnancy Min Jung (his wife) was distant and even made comments that she wished the baby would die.
I should mention in traditional South Korean culture, which her family seems to be, having a girl first is a great shame. So tackle on the fact prior to her birth doctors had no idea if she'd be mentally impaired or severly handicapped. In fact her family suggested terminating it.
Anyway... Min Jung after the baby was born and released from the hospital was extremely angry and violent towards Chris and Yasmine.
To the point it was decided his mom would travel half way around the world and take the baby to the US.
Because of his job Chris couldn't join for about a month. That was I want to say early June.
Min Jung got here a week or so ago.
The original plan was for them to get a legal separation, if they divorce she has to leave the country. So that way they can move on (because it was/is not a happy marriage) and Min Jung can be with her daughter.
However she took all of Chris's money in their "joint" account. Even after she promised not to. By the way it was quite a bit of money and all to be used for Yasmine. In South Korean culture the woman controls the money. She hardly called, emailed, messaged asking how the baby was during her time apart from her. And Chris says she was completely emotionally distant.
I'm not sure what was said but something she said freaked Chris out and lead him to believe she would upon coming to the US would hurt Yasmine or flee the country.
So he took her to court.
Here is the somewhat odd part.... Min Jung though EXTREMELY upset and hurt agreed to give up custody, no spousal support and just move on. The judge won't allow her to sign the papers until a Korean lawyer is found. And they have no idea how long that'll be.
It doesn't help they are staying at the same place, his parents house. And I guess his dad is upsetting her by giving crap advice.
Funny thing, it was his parents were told him that Min Jung could do all the stuff he fears, but they are against what is doing and upset with him! He also has a close friend (second or perhaps tried with Jason) who is friends with Min Jung and is also upset with him.
He told me he no longer fears Yasmine getting hurt, but Min Jung not being able to control her emotions, her reactions to things (during this and prior) has him concerned for her mental health.
I just fear that during the period of waiting to get the papers signed people will convince Chris to drop it the three of them will be extremely unhappy.
I would like to state that I think the adage that the best place for a child is it's mother is complete bullshit. The best place for a child is with the parent that can care for it best. I do think in the court if Chris was a girl, and Min Jung the guy going to court it would be over a lot faster.
Can you keep my friend Chris in your thoughts and prayers? He's in the middle of a custody "battle" with his soon to be ex-wife over sole custody of their daughter. I have mentioned this situation a few times but here's a run down....
They meet while he was teaching English in South Korea. Where she's from.
This past summer they got married. He later admitted they had doubts weeks prior but were too ashamed to call it off.
They were planning on waiting a year before they tried for a baby. She conceived on the honeymoon.
Yasmine was born about a month early and had a tumor and few other health issues.
Throughout the entire pregnancy Min Jung (his wife) was distant and even made comments that she wished the baby would die.
I should mention in traditional South Korean culture, which her family seems to be, having a girl first is a great shame. So tackle on the fact prior to her birth doctors had no idea if she'd be mentally impaired or severly handicapped. In fact her family suggested terminating it.
Anyway... Min Jung after the baby was born and released from the hospital was extremely angry and violent towards Chris and Yasmine.
To the point it was decided his mom would travel half way around the world and take the baby to the US.
Because of his job Chris couldn't join for about a month. That was I want to say early June.
Min Jung got here a week or so ago.
The original plan was for them to get a legal separation, if they divorce she has to leave the country. So that way they can move on (because it was/is not a happy marriage) and Min Jung can be with her daughter.
However she took all of Chris's money in their "joint" account. Even after she promised not to. By the way it was quite a bit of money and all to be used for Yasmine. In South Korean culture the woman controls the money. She hardly called, emailed, messaged asking how the baby was during her time apart from her. And Chris says she was completely emotionally distant.
I'm not sure what was said but something she said freaked Chris out and lead him to believe she would upon coming to the US would hurt Yasmine or flee the country.
So he took her to court.
Here is the somewhat odd part.... Min Jung though EXTREMELY upset and hurt agreed to give up custody, no spousal support and just move on. The judge won't allow her to sign the papers until a Korean lawyer is found. And they have no idea how long that'll be.
It doesn't help they are staying at the same place, his parents house. And I guess his dad is upsetting her by giving crap advice.
Funny thing, it was his parents were told him that Min Jung could do all the stuff he fears, but they are against what is doing and upset with him! He also has a close friend (second or perhaps tried with Jason) who is friends with Min Jung and is also upset with him.
He told me he no longer fears Yasmine getting hurt, but Min Jung not being able to control her emotions, her reactions to things (during this and prior) has him concerned for her mental health.
I just fear that during the period of waiting to get the papers signed people will convince Chris to drop it the three of them will be extremely unhappy.
I would like to state that I think the adage that the best place for a child is it's mother is complete bullshit. The best place for a child is with the parent that can care for it best. I do think in the court if Chris was a girl, and Min Jung the guy going to court it would be over a lot faster.