News from the Conflict Adverse
I am soooo conflict adverse, it can be a true burden. One time I was in a store that was having a big sale on shoes. Two women were arguing over a pair of shoes which weren't my size, a color I wanted, or a style I would ever wear. But I was so uncomfortable with their argument that I had to leave the store. This is how conflict adverse I am!
Today in my Level Design class, we needed to decide on our final project. The entire class has to cooperate and make one game. There are a few technical specification but for the most part, what we do is up to us. No one was taking the lead to guide the class in making the decision so I stepped up and made arrangements to start making decisions. I provided the rest of the class the chance to be in charge but no one stepped up.
This morning, I more-or-less lead the discussion. BUT, there is this one girl in class. She is too loud and too much all about herself. I haven't liked her from the beginning and now I'm pretty sure the feeling is mutual. While I was leading the discussion, people were talking over each other. I tried to stop them as much as I could. When Loud Girl started talking over one of the quieter people in the class, I pointed out that Quiet Girl was talking and we needed to wait until she finished. Loud Girl got all pouty. When Quiet Girl finished, I asked Loud Girl for her opinion. She informed me she didn't have any opinions - which really meant I'm going to pout now and not cooperate. Really? We're in COLLEGE. This is not kindergarten. You do not get to pout because you didn't get the pointed yellow crayon.
At the end of the class, our instructor said the class still had to decide who was going to be the "producer" of the game. Which means it won't necessarily be me. I'm fine with giving "control" to someone else but no one else is stepping up to take charge. He also said he didn't want personality conflicts and those had to be set aside. (I'm pretty sure he was talking to me and Loud Girl.) I get along really well with everyone except Loud Girl. I don't want to be her friend. But I don't want her to be mad at me either.
I know what she thinks doesn't matter. I know her opinion is of no consequence to me. But - see "conflict adverse." I am a turtle without a shell. How does one acquire a turtle shell when one was born without one?
Thank God next week is Spring Break. An entire week I don't have to worry about Loud Girl and what she may think about me. No computer programming. No Physics.
How do y'all handle it when you know someone doesn't like you? It happens to everyone, right????
Today in my Level Design class, we needed to decide on our final project. The entire class has to cooperate and make one game. There are a few technical specification but for the most part, what we do is up to us. No one was taking the lead to guide the class in making the decision so I stepped up and made arrangements to start making decisions. I provided the rest of the class the chance to be in charge but no one stepped up.
This morning, I more-or-less lead the discussion. BUT, there is this one girl in class. She is too loud and too much all about herself. I haven't liked her from the beginning and now I'm pretty sure the feeling is mutual. While I was leading the discussion, people were talking over each other. I tried to stop them as much as I could. When Loud Girl started talking over one of the quieter people in the class, I pointed out that Quiet Girl was talking and we needed to wait until she finished. Loud Girl got all pouty. When Quiet Girl finished, I asked Loud Girl for her opinion. She informed me she didn't have any opinions - which really meant I'm going to pout now and not cooperate. Really? We're in COLLEGE. This is not kindergarten. You do not get to pout because you didn't get the pointed yellow crayon.
At the end of the class, our instructor said the class still had to decide who was going to be the "producer" of the game. Which means it won't necessarily be me. I'm fine with giving "control" to someone else but no one else is stepping up to take charge. He also said he didn't want personality conflicts and those had to be set aside. (I'm pretty sure he was talking to me and Loud Girl.) I get along really well with everyone except Loud Girl. I don't want to be her friend. But I don't want her to be mad at me either.
I know what she thinks doesn't matter. I know her opinion is of no consequence to me. But - see "conflict adverse." I am a turtle without a shell. How does one acquire a turtle shell when one was born without one?
Thank God next week is Spring Break. An entire week I don't have to worry about Loud Girl and what she may think about me. No computer programming. No Physics.
How do y'all handle it when you know someone doesn't like you? It happens to everyone, right????