I hope our few remaining friends give up on trying to save us.
I didn't think I'd have something to say so soon but guess what?! I do! Bear with me.
I have never been one to say that people shouldn't be monogamous because that I think is very important for health and sanity reasons. However, as of late with many new developments, I wonder if people are meant to find one person and actually stay married to them for forever. To be more specific, I guess I just think that maybe long term marriages shouldn't be the norm.
For one, divorce is so casual these days. It's a very "throw away" society that we live in today and if something doesn't work, you toss it. Second, the amount of people who call my job for martial counseling is astounding. You. would. not. believe. It is insane to think that so many relationships are having so many problems. It's because of his family, her family, his drugs, her drinking, his anger, her affair, his mistress, their children, their work, their house, their debt, his health problems, her inability to have children, their ages, their sex (more likely the lack thereof), his addiction, her lying, his inability to trust, the list goes on and on and on and on. Third, as we all know, you can have a baby with out being married. Heck, you can have 10 babies with 10 men who you never even say 'I love you' to.
So if you think that if we do away with marriage then we do away with family, you're wrong. I mean, what if instead of ever marrying we decide to have babies with the man or woman that we like the most, that we laugh the most with and get along best with. But instead of always coming home together at the end of the night you compromise with your best friend on who takes the kid for the weekend and if they want to join you and the children at the zoo on Sunday.
This would require a great amount of responsibility and care for one another but because that is already absent in so many marriages maybe this is the best way to go about respecting the person you are tied to for the rest of your life...by not actually being TIED to them for the rest of your lives. Instead you want to see this person as often as is appropriate for two people who have a child/children together but at the end of the day, you can go to a bar and pick up whatever beautiful man or woman you see and take as much time as you need to indulge in what you want without cheating on your spouse or being a dishonest trash bag. You really can have it all, I think.
I have never been one to say that people shouldn't be monogamous because that I think is very important for health and sanity reasons. However, as of late with many new developments, I wonder if people are meant to find one person and actually stay married to them for forever. To be more specific, I guess I just think that maybe long term marriages shouldn't be the norm.
For one, divorce is so casual these days. It's a very "throw away" society that we live in today and if something doesn't work, you toss it. Second, the amount of people who call my job for martial counseling is astounding. You. would. not. believe. It is insane to think that so many relationships are having so many problems. It's because of his family, her family, his drugs, her drinking, his anger, her affair, his mistress, their children, their work, their house, their debt, his health problems, her inability to have children, their ages, their sex (more likely the lack thereof), his addiction, her lying, his inability to trust, the list goes on and on and on and on. Third, as we all know, you can have a baby with out being married. Heck, you can have 10 babies with 10 men who you never even say 'I love you' to.
So if you think that if we do away with marriage then we do away with family, you're wrong. I mean, what if instead of ever marrying we decide to have babies with the man or woman that we like the most, that we laugh the most with and get along best with. But instead of always coming home together at the end of the night you compromise with your best friend on who takes the kid for the weekend and if they want to join you and the children at the zoo on Sunday.
This would require a great amount of responsibility and care for one another but because that is already absent in so many marriages maybe this is the best way to go about respecting the person you are tied to for the rest of your life...by not actually being TIED to them for the rest of your lives. Instead you want to see this person as often as is appropriate for two people who have a child/children together but at the end of the day, you can go to a bar and pick up whatever beautiful man or woman you see and take as much time as you need to indulge in what you want without cheating on your spouse or being a dishonest trash bag. You really can have it all, I think.