to all my Female friends......Here's my long, well-thought out opinion....
Ok, Here's my theory. Based totally on my personal tastes (since the very beginning of me noticing the beauty of the human body). And based simply on my own Damm OPINION cuz Venus is Highly prominent in my astrological chart so I know whathufuck I'm talking about people.
Women should be soft, Men should be hard.
This is somewhat in opposition to what's fed to our brains on those hideous magazines. I say "somewhat" cuz the main examples of this involves A."fake" women on the covers, B."real" women feeling like shit cuz they look different, and C."real" men being out of shape beer gut dudes; (there's plenty of those magazines showing ripped abs on men to make us feel bad about ourselves too, we just hide our shame because our culture dosen't focus much on the softer side of a mans feelings).
There's plenty of twisted images in the media for Both sexes, but I seriously think the one for WOMEN is far more distorted.
We all have different body types and metabolisms. But ANY kind of body can be muscular and in perfect shape; that possibility is out there for EVERYONE, depending on the will to acheive it. BUT what we see as far as women's models, is vastly different from mens models. The common womens model that has become popular in our culture, and in the minds of starving teenage girls everywhere, is called an "Ectomorph". This is a person who has longer, thinner limbs and torso in comparison to the head, giving them a lankier, more skeletal feature. It is ONE particular KIND of body type. The opposite is of course an "Endomorph" whose bodily curves and "outside" body features are more prominent. The "Ectomorph", in the last 40 or so years, has somehow became the norm for female standards of beauty.
Here's the real PROBLEM with that. Me, and pretty much every man I've been friends with, all are in agreement that WE don't favor that type EITHER! No man I've ever known has complained about how their girl wasn't skinny enough. That's because even tho we all have particular tastes, the ideals for each sex lean MORE towards women having SOFT, curvy bodies, and men having HARD, muscular bodies. Besides whatever implication this has on our Anthropological idea that women nurture and men defend and protect, this is also the simple, rudimentary, asthetic of our GENITALIA.
A HARD penis, and a SOFT vagina; it's a perfect match. Whether you love bone-thin, or curvy women, we can ALL agree on that!
But a SOFT penis and a HARD vagina(?), well that's just plain fuckin stupid right there!
The problem with THIS culture is women are all cursing themselves for being WOMEN, and men are allowing themselves to become SOFT. The idea of the beer-gut sports fan is way too accepted in our culture, and there's still this wierd bias towards women with curves. There is SOME progress being made (the popularization of pop people like Jennifer Lopez and Shakira, and the now equal importance of rippled MALE models to rippled FEMALE models). But it's not quite right yet, the ghost still haunts our generation. Most women I know are still struggling with body guilt almost like it's part of their fuckin nature!. No waist size is good enough. Yet they have NO trouble finding male admirers who all try to convince them that their bodies are amazing. And I hate to say it, and I'm in NO way placing myself above any man I know, but there's lots of saggy, bitch-tit having dudes out there who complain about not being able to find a woman.
The denile of these things is a level of bullshit I'm not willing to succumb to!!!. It's not too fuckin hard, get your shit together and move around!. Men develop muscle faster, and have faster metabolisms than women. Not taking advantage of this is stupid!. It INFURIATES the SHIT out of me to see some pudgy ass, cheese steak eating "Brah!" treating his woman like shit so she starves herself down to a size 5. It's SO ass-backwards from the asthetic I've ALWAYS had, that I get an experience akin to "Culture Shock" whenever I get drenched in the social world.
I also think, and this COULD be as STUPID as it sounds, that men are placing a lost "homosexual" need onto the common image of a woman. Homosexuality was SOOO incredibly accepted by every culture BEFORE ours (and in many Animal cultures as well). This culture we live in now is pretty much the first to reject it, so that instinct returns in our deepest natures. The cultural asthetic men have towards women nowadays is almost like the body of a well-fit teenage BOY! a common ideal of ALOT of people actually!. The bony hips, and tight, long-muscled body.
Botticelli didn't portray a body like THAT in "Birth of Venus". Neither were ANY traits shown like that in most Renaissance paintings, or the "Venus of Willendorf" sculture.
It never SEEMED to be the ideal woman in our history. And it dosen't seem to be to ME and most men I know.
Now this is pretty a much a challenge to women who CANNOT leg go is this struggle in their lives, and men who CANNOT accept the ideal that has always been here.
This also dosen't involve OBESITY, which is a whole other problem that goes beyond sexuality. OBESTITY makes ANYbody take on a round, flabby, Asexual quality, and that is a step above THIS problem.
Again, it's my opinion that men should try to stay hard, and Women should be less hard on THEMSELVES. It's that "REAL" set of ideals that has always been present in MY dealings with people I've known. But has always been cursed by the fucked up influence of our popular culture.
I look foward to the day when my big-assed goddeses can walk the streets in tight pants with heads high. And my brothers are ALL looking like greek gods.
Shit, I'm living in the WRONG goddamm country most likley!
Women should be soft, Men should be hard.
This is somewhat in opposition to what's fed to our brains on those hideous magazines. I say "somewhat" cuz the main examples of this involves A."fake" women on the covers, B."real" women feeling like shit cuz they look different, and C."real" men being out of shape beer gut dudes; (there's plenty of those magazines showing ripped abs on men to make us feel bad about ourselves too, we just hide our shame because our culture dosen't focus much on the softer side of a mans feelings).
There's plenty of twisted images in the media for Both sexes, but I seriously think the one for WOMEN is far more distorted.
We all have different body types and metabolisms. But ANY kind of body can be muscular and in perfect shape; that possibility is out there for EVERYONE, depending on the will to acheive it. BUT what we see as far as women's models, is vastly different from mens models. The common womens model that has become popular in our culture, and in the minds of starving teenage girls everywhere, is called an "Ectomorph". This is a person who has longer, thinner limbs and torso in comparison to the head, giving them a lankier, more skeletal feature. It is ONE particular KIND of body type. The opposite is of course an "Endomorph" whose bodily curves and "outside" body features are more prominent. The "Ectomorph", in the last 40 or so years, has somehow became the norm for female standards of beauty.
Here's the real PROBLEM with that. Me, and pretty much every man I've been friends with, all are in agreement that WE don't favor that type EITHER! No man I've ever known has complained about how their girl wasn't skinny enough. That's because even tho we all have particular tastes, the ideals for each sex lean MORE towards women having SOFT, curvy bodies, and men having HARD, muscular bodies. Besides whatever implication this has on our Anthropological idea that women nurture and men defend and protect, this is also the simple, rudimentary, asthetic of our GENITALIA.
A HARD penis, and a SOFT vagina; it's a perfect match. Whether you love bone-thin, or curvy women, we can ALL agree on that!
But a SOFT penis and a HARD vagina(?), well that's just plain fuckin stupid right there!
The problem with THIS culture is women are all cursing themselves for being WOMEN, and men are allowing themselves to become SOFT. The idea of the beer-gut sports fan is way too accepted in our culture, and there's still this wierd bias towards women with curves. There is SOME progress being made (the popularization of pop people like Jennifer Lopez and Shakira, and the now equal importance of rippled MALE models to rippled FEMALE models). But it's not quite right yet, the ghost still haunts our generation. Most women I know are still struggling with body guilt almost like it's part of their fuckin nature!. No waist size is good enough. Yet they have NO trouble finding male admirers who all try to convince them that their bodies are amazing. And I hate to say it, and I'm in NO way placing myself above any man I know, but there's lots of saggy, bitch-tit having dudes out there who complain about not being able to find a woman.
The denile of these things is a level of bullshit I'm not willing to succumb to!!!. It's not too fuckin hard, get your shit together and move around!. Men develop muscle faster, and have faster metabolisms than women. Not taking advantage of this is stupid!. It INFURIATES the SHIT out of me to see some pudgy ass, cheese steak eating "Brah!" treating his woman like shit so she starves herself down to a size 5. It's SO ass-backwards from the asthetic I've ALWAYS had, that I get an experience akin to "Culture Shock" whenever I get drenched in the social world.
I also think, and this COULD be as STUPID as it sounds, that men are placing a lost "homosexual" need onto the common image of a woman. Homosexuality was SOOO incredibly accepted by every culture BEFORE ours (and in many Animal cultures as well). This culture we live in now is pretty much the first to reject it, so that instinct returns in our deepest natures. The cultural asthetic men have towards women nowadays is almost like the body of a well-fit teenage BOY! a common ideal of ALOT of people actually!. The bony hips, and tight, long-muscled body.
Botticelli didn't portray a body like THAT in "Birth of Venus". Neither were ANY traits shown like that in most Renaissance paintings, or the "Venus of Willendorf" sculture.
It never SEEMED to be the ideal woman in our history. And it dosen't seem to be to ME and most men I know.
Now this is pretty a much a challenge to women who CANNOT leg go is this struggle in their lives, and men who CANNOT accept the ideal that has always been here.
This also dosen't involve OBESITY, which is a whole other problem that goes beyond sexuality. OBESTITY makes ANYbody take on a round, flabby, Asexual quality, and that is a step above THIS problem.
Again, it's my opinion that men should try to stay hard, and Women should be less hard on THEMSELVES. It's that "REAL" set of ideals that has always been present in MY dealings with people I've known. But has always been cursed by the fucked up influence of our popular culture.
I look foward to the day when my big-assed goddeses can walk the streets in tight pants with heads high. And my brothers are ALL looking like greek gods.
Shit, I'm living in the WRONG goddamm country most likley!