June Meme, Day 15
Yesterday's question and the comments on it have made me think about the huge divide I experienced, culturally, between being a child/pre-teen and a teenager.
My experience of being a child in the 60s was one of childhood, with no pressure to be older than my years and that continued into my early teens. I was at secondary school, so 11 or 12, before I encountered the idea of romance among my peers or magazines with photos of pop stars. But those are the very pre-teen years the question yesterday was asking about. I answered it from the perspective of being younger and claimed ignorance of the concept of crushes.
But... I have also remembered The Monkeys on television in the 60s and how my friend's older sister had a crush on Davey Jones and had a poster of the band on her bedroom wall. My friend and I just thought that was silly, but we were only 6, so... I wish I could remember how old the sister was.
Thinking back though, my 'crushes', even into my mid-teens were more along the lines of 'I want to be you when I grow up' than, 'I love/like/have a romantic crush on you'. I suspect tabaqui is right in what she said in her comment - I think you did have to have a kind of bent that way.
But I am also grateful that I didn't have any pressures on me to grow up faster than I wanted to.
Today the question is -
15. Do you prefer big parties or smaller, more intimate gatherings?
Big parties intimidate me. And exhaust me. I can usually find one or two people to talk to, but a single evening at a big party takes me days to recover from. A trip to the pub (most of the UK is dreaming of the day the pubs open again) one without loud music and with good beer, with up to half a dozen good friends, that is my ideal. A group that size is small enough so everybody can be involved in the same discussion, but one-to-one side conversations are quite possible.
If the pub in question is in easy walking distance to home, or close to a Metro station, that is even better.
My experience of being a child in the 60s was one of childhood, with no pressure to be older than my years and that continued into my early teens. I was at secondary school, so 11 or 12, before I encountered the idea of romance among my peers or magazines with photos of pop stars. But those are the very pre-teen years the question yesterday was asking about. I answered it from the perspective of being younger and claimed ignorance of the concept of crushes.
But... I have also remembered The Monkeys on television in the 60s and how my friend's older sister had a crush on Davey Jones and had a poster of the band on her bedroom wall. My friend and I just thought that was silly, but we were only 6, so... I wish I could remember how old the sister was.
Thinking back though, my 'crushes', even into my mid-teens were more along the lines of 'I want to be you when I grow up' than, 'I love/like/have a romantic crush on you'. I suspect tabaqui is right in what she said in her comment - I think you did have to have a kind of bent that way.
But I am also grateful that I didn't have any pressures on me to grow up faster than I wanted to.
Today the question is -
15. Do you prefer big parties or smaller, more intimate gatherings?
Big parties intimidate me. And exhaust me. I can usually find one or two people to talk to, but a single evening at a big party takes me days to recover from. A trip to the pub (most of the UK is dreaming of the day the pubs open again) one without loud music and with good beer, with up to half a dozen good friends, that is my ideal. A group that size is small enough so everybody can be involved in the same discussion, but one-to-one side conversations are quite possible.
If the pub in question is in easy walking distance to home, or close to a Metro station, that is even better.