Looks don't matter
I've always wanted to write something about this. I've heard many people, usually women, say that when they look for a date or spouse, their looks just don't matter. It's personality, intelligence, etc. that count.
I can't speak for all of them, but I have a feeling that some aren't being honest. Maybe they don't want to sound shallow. But there is nothing shallow about wanting someone who looks a certain way. It only becomes shallow when that's ALL you care about. That's different. But it's a good thing to be attracted to someone, just as it's a good thing to find someone who is intelligent. There should be many sides to a relationship and many reasons to like the person.
Maybe it's easier for me to admit it because I'm not attracted to guys who are conventionally handsome. I think that Brad Pitt, Ben Affleck, and Leonardo DiCaprio are pretty bad looking. But that's okay--it left the field open for me where it counted, and would for those like me.
I can't speak for all of them, but I have a feeling that some aren't being honest. Maybe they don't want to sound shallow. But there is nothing shallow about wanting someone who looks a certain way. It only becomes shallow when that's ALL you care about. That's different. But it's a good thing to be attracted to someone, just as it's a good thing to find someone who is intelligent. There should be many sides to a relationship and many reasons to like the person.
Maybe it's easier for me to admit it because I'm not attracted to guys who are conventionally handsome. I think that Brad Pitt, Ben Affleck, and Leonardo DiCaprio are pretty bad looking. But that's okay--it left the field open for me where it counted, and would for those like me.