Aspie Thoughts: Understanding Partner Loneliness
One issue that is hard for me is that Kimerley often feels "alone" in our marriage. Many times I've tried to understand what's she means by this, and attempted to have her explain. To little avail.
It can be very frustrating, because I try to make contact, be there, communicate. And feel if anything, that many times I'm pushed away. So how do these two points mesh?
So today we had a situation where we had talked about going to Port Discovery. Wife asked me to call and see how busy it was. I reported back to them. But felt I didn't get a response back whether that was too busy to go or not. Then she asked alternatives and mentioned letting the kids decide. This didn't produce results. And I still felt schedule was indefinite and getting more complicated as we had a place to be at 3-4'ish. Factor in meeting with a potential sitter. And time whittles away.
So things didn't happen. She was sad. But in discussing, she explained how she feels alone. Because we don't get out to do family thing on days we're all home - like today.
I confessed that indefinite schedules are hard for me to function with.
But in talking and discussion, she expressed it made her feel alone. In the working of plans and such. And while I think we needed better communication. It was one of the first times I understood the context of her feeling alone at times in our marriage.
I think it's as not having a partner. So now it makes more sense.
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