Asperger's
So Kimberley and I are pretty sure that I fall under the spectrum of Asperger's. an it is probably largely to blame for many of our marital struggles over the years.
It's both easing and troubling to realize. Easing, because now I have a sense of understanding what the $&@#% is going on with me. Troubling just how challenging it'll be to overcome its hurdles.
One aspect is learning to re-interpret and understand. For example, right now I want (& need) Kim's darkpool attentions.
While she is trying to relax and cool down before along day at work tomorrow. I want and need her and she just want to read or play video games. There is a part of me which naturally wants too exclaim how can you choose games over me.
But she's not choosing games. She's choosing her own mental restoration time over me. And that's not unfair. We need such, especially before 12 hour shifts.
So here I am trying to override my instincts and be focused on her feelings and needs.
It's this re-evaluation of default interpretation an realization that in think will be pivotal.
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