(which basically boils down to saying that if women were nicer to men, it wouldn't have happened) I've seen this point made as well and it really raises my hackles. My entire insecure identity in high school hinged on "being nice to everyone" and if anything, it made them show their asses more. Because of course if I was nice to a young man that most people weren't friendly with, the only possible reason was that I was interested in them romantically or sexually. I was asked out and propositioned many times and of course whenever I turned them down I was accused of being a tease and ruining their life. I didn't realize that being a decent human being was actually volunteering to provide pity sex to anyone who wanted it!
And it's also made me realise that I have those stories too, of harassment and groping and "boys will be boys", and I don't think I've ever even bothered to tell them to anyone. It's actually been quite emotional for me reading some of these Tweets, realizing how much I recognize from my own experience. So much of it I just accepted as normal without thinking about it /:
I've seen this point made as well and it really raises my hackles. My entire insecure identity in high school hinged on "being nice to everyone" and if anything, it made them show their asses more. Because of course if I was nice to a young man that most people weren't friendly with, the only possible reason was that I was interested in them romantically or sexually. I was asked out and propositioned many times and of course whenever I turned them down I was accused of being a tease and ruining their life. I didn't realize that being a decent human being was actually volunteering to provide pity sex to anyone who wanted it!
And it's also made me realise that I have those stories too, of harassment and groping and "boys will be boys", and I don't think I've ever even bothered to tell them to anyone.
It's actually been quite emotional for me reading some of these Tweets, realizing how much I recognize from my own experience. So much of it I just accepted as normal without thinking about it /:
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