Thanks Zach
For helping me to figure out part of what I'm looking for...
So, someone asked me what I'm looking for in a relationship and lately, I've felt that I hadn't actually figured that out yet. Things are constantly changing for me but I think I've got somewhat of a pinpoint on what I'm after.
A job is an important thing to have...and if not that, then at least some sense of responsibility for where you are going or what you are doing in life. You know, college...or taking care of yourself in some way, not mooching off of others. When someone can take care of themselves and don't solely depend on me to take care of their emotional needs, that's a good thing. Every now and then, just telling me to shut the hell up is a plus. (I know that sounds silly but it's true.) I get irrational at times and it's nice to have someone that can balance me out when it really counts...I like when people are close to their family in some way...or at least, like their family.
And/or don't hold so many jaded opinions on the definition of a family that they don't seem like the type that can handle one of their own. I'm sick of being in relationships where I feel like all the motivation is sucked out of me and I have to "dumb down" where I want to go to be with someone. I don't like compromising myself or my future for the sake of "being in a relationship." I think that's why I've avoided them like the plague lately. I'm not always a cuddler and I want someone that understands that there are times when I just need my space. I want someone who can entertain me just as much as I can entertain them and I don't just mean in between the sheets, I mean...everyday life. I want someone who can carry on a conversation.
I want a lot, I guess...but hey, I'm sure it's there somewhere. I'm just not looking for it in the right places.
So, someone asked me what I'm looking for in a relationship and lately, I've felt that I hadn't actually figured that out yet. Things are constantly changing for me but I think I've got somewhat of a pinpoint on what I'm after.
A job is an important thing to have...and if not that, then at least some sense of responsibility for where you are going or what you are doing in life. You know, college...or taking care of yourself in some way, not mooching off of others. When someone can take care of themselves and don't solely depend on me to take care of their emotional needs, that's a good thing. Every now and then, just telling me to shut the hell up is a plus. (I know that sounds silly but it's true.) I get irrational at times and it's nice to have someone that can balance me out when it really counts...I like when people are close to their family in some way...or at least, like their family.
And/or don't hold so many jaded opinions on the definition of a family that they don't seem like the type that can handle one of their own. I'm sick of being in relationships where I feel like all the motivation is sucked out of me and I have to "dumb down" where I want to go to be with someone. I don't like compromising myself or my future for the sake of "being in a relationship." I think that's why I've avoided them like the plague lately. I'm not always a cuddler and I want someone that understands that there are times when I just need my space. I want someone who can entertain me just as much as I can entertain them and I don't just mean in between the sheets, I mean...everyday life. I want someone who can carry on a conversation.
I want a lot, I guess...but hey, I'm sure it's there somewhere. I'm just not looking for it in the right places.