reaching out
Well, yesterday I sent an ex-friend of mine a message. Basically, we had a pretty nasty falling out in november of 2005. We grew up together as best friends till the falling out, which occured while we were in high school.
Yesterday morning, I saw here in her Saturn pull up next to me after exiting the 91 freeway. I immediately recognized her, but since my look and car has changed since she last saw me, she didn't recognize me. Immediately during that red light I sat and remembered our fall out; why it occured (trust me, describing what happened would take a whole other blog). But then I remembered us as friends; all our good times, growing up together. She had introduced me to my friend Kelly, whom I've also had a falling out with, and don't talk to. But Kelly and I had so much in common and so many shared interests, that I felt more attached to Kelly then I had ever to Kacie.
I remembered the film "Beaches" with Bette Midler. Make fun of it all you want, but remember the impact that film first had on you when you saw it. You wished, if you didn't have already, for a best friend to stay with you all your life like Cici and Beverly. I remembered watching that movie with Kelly several times; how much my personality was like Cicis and hers like Beverlys.
I regret that we had faults on one other during 2005; I regret not handling the situation like an adult. But I wasnt. I was a stupid 18 year old kid that didn't want to handle the situation like a grown up.
So I sent Kacie a simple message to her facebook; I told her that we should meet up, grab a coffee, and leave the past behind us. I told her I had matured and wanted to let go of the issues. Nothing too dramatic, nothing too sentimental. Just real and simple.
She hasn't responded since I sent the message. I know in this world of facebook, you see your stuff on the thing pretty recently after it's posted.
I do value our past and consider that what happened happened, and that there is an opportunity for us to move forward. But maybe that opportunity can't happen just yet, although I want it to. I just need to be patient and hope that this is a friend that can welcome and be welcomed back into my life.
Click to viewYesterday morning, I saw here in her Saturn pull up next to me after exiting the 91 freeway. I immediately recognized her, but since my look and car has changed since she last saw me, she didn't recognize me. Immediately during that red light I sat and remembered our fall out; why it occured (trust me, describing what happened would take a whole other blog). But then I remembered us as friends; all our good times, growing up together. She had introduced me to my friend Kelly, whom I've also had a falling out with, and don't talk to. But Kelly and I had so much in common and so many shared interests, that I felt more attached to Kelly then I had ever to Kacie.
I remembered the film "Beaches" with Bette Midler. Make fun of it all you want, but remember the impact that film first had on you when you saw it. You wished, if you didn't have already, for a best friend to stay with you all your life like Cici and Beverly. I remembered watching that movie with Kelly several times; how much my personality was like Cicis and hers like Beverlys.
I regret that we had faults on one other during 2005; I regret not handling the situation like an adult. But I wasnt. I was a stupid 18 year old kid that didn't want to handle the situation like a grown up.
So I sent Kacie a simple message to her facebook; I told her that we should meet up, grab a coffee, and leave the past behind us. I told her I had matured and wanted to let go of the issues. Nothing too dramatic, nothing too sentimental. Just real and simple.
She hasn't responded since I sent the message. I know in this world of facebook, you see your stuff on the thing pretty recently after it's posted.
I do value our past and consider that what happened happened, and that there is an opportunity for us to move forward. But maybe that opportunity can't happen just yet, although I want it to. I just need to be patient and hope that this is a friend that can welcome and be welcomed back into my life.