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thehobbit

I read this in another community.

Feb 27, 2011 21:47

I asked the poster if I could repost and share. They said yes. Originally written, and probably eventually edited by pennypinkledI remember a conversation I had with my mother. She announced her thoughts that my tangled hair and unshaven legs were unsightly mechanisms behind which I hid the "real beauty" that I could possess, but that I didn't think I " ( Read more... )

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xochitl February 28 2011, 03:37:41 UTC

No kidding; when I wasn't shaving it was amazing how many people assumed I was making a political statement (and would express to me how they agreed or did not agree with said statement) rather than I was just lazy and forgot to buy razors every time I went to the store, so I decided to just quit shaving for a year ( ... )

thehobbit February 28 2011, 04:08:07 UTC

This post nailed me to a wall because I remembered when I first started making choices about my physical appearance how my Mother would ask me why I was trying to make myself ugly and how horrible it left me feeling. Where as now, as an adult, the choices I make about my appearance are in direct correlation to how I feel attractive and what makes me feel attractive ( ... )

xochitl February 28 2011, 04:14:21 UTC

Men are all like, "But we groom! You should too!" Yeah... okay... it's fair, I'll agree with that. Buuuuut... if men don't groom, women don't ostracize them. You can be the hairiest manbeast on the planet and women will still sleep with you. Because hello, MEN CREATE THE BEAUTY STANDARDS. It is annoying that more guys don't get this.

My mom asked me a lot of the same questions when I stopped shaving. I was confused because she was a hippie, she grew up in the 60's and 70's and should know why a woman would want to take control of her own appearance. I shave now because I don't like my tattoos to be hairy (lol) but the sad thing is it's kind of nice not to have to deal with people's "concerns", as if not shaving my legs/pits is akin to going on a hunger strike or chaining myself to a tree. o_O

thehobbit February 28 2011, 04:31:53 UTC

I'd agree with this we groom you groom theory if I ever dated men who regularly groom. If they get to groom once a week I get to groom once a week. Or for some of them, once every two weeks, etc ( ... )