Writer's Block Prompt and the pitfalls of online dating
Some books are inspirational. Others are intellectually stimulating or emotionally comforting. Then there are those juicy, mindless reads that are only good for a plane ride or the beach. Which books or authors fall under this last category?
My long-standing favorite "fluff" book has been this one Star Trek novel called The Final Reflection, by John M. Ford. I have read it at least 10 times. It is about the Klingons and was written before the movies and shows started to create more canon for the Klingons, so almost everything in it has been Jossed for years. The format is a book-within-a-book that is a historical novel about the early days of contact between the Federation and the Klingon Empire that Kirk is reading. It's actually very good culture building, and the usual Star Trek characters appear in it only very briefly.
I just looked it up on Amazon.com because I was too lazy to find my copy to get the author's name and it has a really good customer rating. 45 out of 52 reviews gave it 5 stars. This amuses the heck out of me because I often wonder if anyone else in the world has read this book.
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I have an OKCupid profile and have been checking out guy's profiles and emailing people on there and even met a couple guys in person. There is one that might go somewhere, but that's not what's on my mind right now.
I don't really talk about this here, but I am fat. Not "kind of gray area people tell me I'm not really fat" fat, but "so fat no one argues when I say I'm fat" fat. So I stated that right on my profile, along with the fact that I have no interest in losing weight, and I made sure that my pictures made my body type really obvious. I haven't gotten a lot of contacts, but the ones I have gotten have mostly opened by talking about nerdy stuff and I feel like my filters are working and I'm mostly talking to dudes that have compatible interests with mine.
The thing is I want to be able to take the initiative and be the first to message guys if they seem interesting to me, so I look at their profiles and read their match questions and there is this one question that says "Would you date someone who was overweight?" A lot of the guys I've been looking at answer "Yes, as long as they were not obese."
Now, as this collection of photos of real people and their BMI categories might illustrate, "obese" isn't necessarily what most people think it is. So when I see that answer I have to wonder "Do they mean me? Or do they mean the people they see on TLC specials?"
So I don't message those guys, even though some of them seem like they might be fun to talk to. Sometimes I wonder if maybe I should take a chance on them, if maybe I fit their version of not too fat. But then I remind my self that I am really looking for a guy who would answer with an unqualified "Yes, I would date someone who was fat." Because I don't want to have to worry about my partner suddenly deciding that I'm unacceptable if my metabolism decides to change.
My long-standing favorite "fluff" book has been this one Star Trek novel called The Final Reflection, by John M. Ford. I have read it at least 10 times. It is about the Klingons and was written before the movies and shows started to create more canon for the Klingons, so almost everything in it has been Jossed for years. The format is a book-within-a-book that is a historical novel about the early days of contact between the Federation and the Klingon Empire that Kirk is reading. It's actually very good culture building, and the usual Star Trek characters appear in it only very briefly.
I just looked it up on Amazon.com because I was too lazy to find my copy to get the author's name and it has a really good customer rating. 45 out of 52 reviews gave it 5 stars. This amuses the heck out of me because I often wonder if anyone else in the world has read this book.
**&**
I have an OKCupid profile and have been checking out guy's profiles and emailing people on there and even met a couple guys in person. There is one that might go somewhere, but that's not what's on my mind right now.
I don't really talk about this here, but I am fat. Not "kind of gray area people tell me I'm not really fat" fat, but "so fat no one argues when I say I'm fat" fat. So I stated that right on my profile, along with the fact that I have no interest in losing weight, and I made sure that my pictures made my body type really obvious. I haven't gotten a lot of contacts, but the ones I have gotten have mostly opened by talking about nerdy stuff and I feel like my filters are working and I'm mostly talking to dudes that have compatible interests with mine.
The thing is I want to be able to take the initiative and be the first to message guys if they seem interesting to me, so I look at their profiles and read their match questions and there is this one question that says "Would you date someone who was overweight?" A lot of the guys I've been looking at answer "Yes, as long as they were not obese."
Now, as this collection of photos of real people and their BMI categories might illustrate, "obese" isn't necessarily what most people think it is. So when I see that answer I have to wonder "Do they mean me? Or do they mean the people they see on TLC specials?"
So I don't message those guys, even though some of them seem like they might be fun to talk to. Sometimes I wonder if maybe I should take a chance on them, if maybe I fit their version of not too fat. But then I remind my self that I am really looking for a guy who would answer with an unqualified "Yes, I would date someone who was fat." Because I don't want to have to worry about my partner suddenly deciding that I'm unacceptable if my metabolism decides to change.