something that has been bugging me....
Maybe this is insensitive to the good Jewish people, but I cannot understand why so many people are so adament about only dating other Jews. Yes, I understand that it's important to keep the Jewish people alive because it is a small population, I really do. I can respect that in theory. But in practice, to break up with a girlfriend because she's
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There are some things that are sacred and those are different to different people and there are some things that you need to have in common with someone in order for you to connect.
I think of two of my wonderful, ethnically diverse friends from Skid. Hager-a muslim from the bronx and the only woman at skidmore with enough guts and respect to where her scarf in the presence of men and shruti-an idian from singapore. I have talked to both about guys, both admitted that their parents would kill them if they dated someone outside of their group and then both said that, seriously, they never want to.
Hager is very religious and it's not that she does not respect other people's religions or discriminates based on race. But she prays 5 times a day and wants to have the person that she spends her life with willing to do that with her.
When you think of it, its no different than saying that you could never date a conservative republican. If politics are very important to you, chances are, it just would not work. and there you go eliminating a huge portion of the population.
I have to say that I am guilty of this as well. It's not that I don't find any chinese men attractive or am writing them off as a race, but frankly, the cultural differences are so vast, I am just very skeptical as to whether I could find anything in common with anyone raised in a traditional Chinese household.
I think that there are connections surpass all predetermined boundaries, but you have to have somewhere to start.
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