Can you please tell every child to ignore socialization?
When you’re young you just hate the world. You hate everything that’s mainstream but you just don’t want to be in high school. Then you realize why you didn’t want to be in high school - because when you left high school, went to college or wherever you went, you finally started to actually use your mind. You know, think instead of just thinking that you were thinking. Or, you know, being told what to think, as if it is your actual thoughts, so you just agree. You know, that its a good thing to get married and that the only course of action is to go to college and get a "normal" job.
And, you know, finding out what you care about and what pisses you off. When you were in high school you said it was okay to be different and all, but that was all talk, and talk is cheap: you couldn’t be different, only other people could be different. The harsh truth: the television shows you watched, the people you hated, the people you liked, and, yes (it’s true), your family - all planted images into your head. I’m not saying they’re inherently bad people, I’m not even saying they don’t love you. I’m saying that they are misguided, and they believe the lie, and just because they say they love you it doesn’t make it at all okay that they attempted to turn you into a fucking clone - yes, that’s right, socialization.
The first thing you learn when you take a sociology class. A definition of socialization: the process by which culture is learned; also called enculturation. During socialization individuals internalize a culture's social controls, along with values and norms about right and wrong. My major problem with this: there should NOT be any NORMS. This inherently will make people think that is a bad thing to be different, and suppress the person they really are for TWENTY F-ING YEARS like I did. There is no one right or wrong way to be. Don’t let anyone turn you into a machine. Just because you are told something is true, it doesn’t make it true. There is no normal. I don’t want to be called normal. I don’t want to be equal. I just want to be me. And you should just want to be you.
You think I am talking about a minority, right? WRONGO. I’m talking about EVERYONE. It’s not just big things. It’s all the little things that you are told from an early age that if you don’t do (and the things that if you do do), you will be made fun of. My parents wanted me to be Calliope. My grandmother was Calliope. She changed her name to Carol because she thought Calliope was too weird of a name and because she was made fun of. She told my mom to tell me that I’m Calliope but have my legal name be Cali so I’m not “made fun of”. How sick and twisted is that? I am not Calliope and I am certainly not Cali. I never was. I don’t even know who Cali is, but I NEVER identified as Cali. People should NOT be told to change so they won’t be “made fun of”. People who “make fun of people” should be told not to “make fun of people” for being different from them. Why are "normal" people scared of people who are "different"? Why do we fear the unknown? The answer is simple. Because when we are two years old, before we even know how to think, we are freaking TOLD TO. People shouldn’t be TOLD anything, they should be allowed to freely explore life and figure out whom they are and what they care about and what they believe in.
My problem with being a sociology major? It presumes that sociology is a good thing. My reason for being a sociology major? ‘Cause you have to learn the rules before you break them.
I am: a polyamorous pansexual female-to-male transgender anarchist christian martial artist capoeirista human being, if one person has this many "labels", how many other people do? This is why people can't have labels. Because EVERYONE is UNIQUE and NO ONE fits perfectly into ANY mold.
By the way, I'm Kaden.