letters
The following is a letter I sent to Steven, who is home sick today. I'm posting the letter because it's easier than retyping the events of today.
Enjoy
"As you know, I'm back at Med center today.
I'm working again with those two people I don't like.
This morning, Schan was asking me if I was ok and joking around that she was having "one of those days," too and how we should have our own little pity party together. That was right before I went into the bathroom and cried.
So at lunch she was asking if I was better and I said no and she asked if there was anything she could do and I said no, other than praying and told her to pray for dad. She asked what was going on and I told her and she said, "why are you even here today?" Like I should have taken off work to sit at the hospital all day?
And the tone of voice she used was almost like a guilt trip…I felt like she was trying to make me feel guilty for not taking a day off work to go visit my father…like I'm a bad person.
What could I do for him by taking the day off? I can't just sit at the hospital all day…I mean, I probably could, but why?
And how was that supposed to help?
And then the other girl (Carmen)…we were all talking about houses at lunch and I was joking that all I need in a house is a big bathtub and she got on her high-mommy-horse and said, "Well, those priorities will change when you have children." What is it with these super-mommies who think it's their responsibility to tell everyone that they're wrong about everything, especially things involving their children???
Anyway, I'm going to try and leave early today to go see him. Jennifer said it was cool, especially since we have so many nurses and only 2 doctors. You know, I know I complain about when she's here, but she's really very cool.
I love you. Call me if you need anything."
And that's it.
Seriously, though, would someone tell me why mothers do that? And it's not all mothers, either. I've noticed that it only happens with women who have children late (like this girl at work, waited till her 40s to have kids). Is the the whole "with age comes wisdom" thing that they think makes them know everything? Really, tell me why?
Mighty Mommy*, any suggestions?
*"Mighty Mommy" is the title of my cousin's podcast about parenting, not a nickname for annoying coworkers who tell me how to live my life. And even Mighty Mommy doesn't behave like that!" Listen to Mighty Mommy today!!
Enjoy
"As you know, I'm back at Med center today.
I'm working again with those two people I don't like.
This morning, Schan was asking me if I was ok and joking around that she was having "one of those days," too and how we should have our own little pity party together. That was right before I went into the bathroom and cried.
So at lunch she was asking if I was better and I said no and she asked if there was anything she could do and I said no, other than praying and told her to pray for dad. She asked what was going on and I told her and she said, "why are you even here today?" Like I should have taken off work to sit at the hospital all day?
And the tone of voice she used was almost like a guilt trip…I felt like she was trying to make me feel guilty for not taking a day off work to go visit my father…like I'm a bad person.
What could I do for him by taking the day off? I can't just sit at the hospital all day…I mean, I probably could, but why?
And how was that supposed to help?
And then the other girl (Carmen)…we were all talking about houses at lunch and I was joking that all I need in a house is a big bathtub and she got on her high-mommy-horse and said, "Well, those priorities will change when you have children." What is it with these super-mommies who think it's their responsibility to tell everyone that they're wrong about everything, especially things involving their children???
Anyway, I'm going to try and leave early today to go see him. Jennifer said it was cool, especially since we have so many nurses and only 2 doctors. You know, I know I complain about when she's here, but she's really very cool.
I love you. Call me if you need anything."
And that's it.
Seriously, though, would someone tell me why mothers do that? And it's not all mothers, either. I've noticed that it only happens with women who have children late (like this girl at work, waited till her 40s to have kids). Is the the whole "with age comes wisdom" thing that they think makes them know everything? Really, tell me why?
Mighty Mommy*, any suggestions?
*"Mighty Mommy" is the title of my cousin's podcast about parenting, not a nickname for annoying coworkers who tell me how to live my life. And even Mighty Mommy doesn't behave like that!" Listen to Mighty Mommy today!!