Part Trois: Brotherly Love
It was the saddest trip yet, but why?
Friday, October 26, 2007
My Father's Birthday, and my parent's anniversary. We left McAllen around 1 or 2 o'clock. This time I left with my brother, his wife and two kids. It was a fun ride compared to last weeks. My brother and I were bonding and my nieces were asleep which made the trip alot more quiet. I didn't get lost at all this time, so I was proud of myself. When we arrived at the Nursing home, it looked nice. It was a red brick, five story buidling, surrounded by tall trees. We walked inside and my father met us at the elevators. He then took us to the fifth floor and as soon as the elevators door opened, the smell of feces ran through our nostrils. We literally had to hold our breath until we got to my mom's room. My mom's bed was immediately by the door, and the lady next to her had the window with a view. My mom quickly teared up and started hugging us all. She stood up and told us to go downstairs so we could talk more freely. We went downstairs and went to dining area which had a sign that read "Towne Square". We joined two tables together and gathered around my parents. I gave them their anniversary presents, and they loved them of course. There was a room next to the "Towne Square" which had free ice cream so we all got ice cream and talked for a few hours. It was ten o'clock, so we decided to leave so we could look for a hotel. We found a Holiday Inn Express nearby and stayed there. My ten month old niece then got really sick and was crying for hours and kept throwing up flem, so I didnt get much sleep that night. I felt really bad for her, she is just a baby after all.
Saturday, October 27, 2007
Celebration. We woke up late since my niece was crying late into the night. My dad told us that they were going to let my mom leave the nursing home for a few hours so she could celebrate her anniversary. We were all excited, since this had been talked about for a few days already. My aunts were even coming up and they had promised my mom a barbecue and everything. So we get to the nursing home around 1 o'clock and my mom was almost done with her antibiotic. As soon as she finished, we left to my uncle's apartment to meet up with my aunts. When we got there, all my aunts were already there and they met us outside. We all hugged, and we were so happy to be together again. We went inside and one of my aunts was cooking for everyone. My mom told them that she was only going to be out till 8 then she had to go back. In the past my uncle and my brother had a few differences, and it made the place very uncomfortable. My uncle was completely ignoring my brother and myself, so it was a tense environment. Anyway, my aunts really got me upset because my mom was trying to open up to them, and talk to them about her experience, and some of them were ignoring her. They were watching tv, reading magazines, and one of them fell asleep. I was frustrated of being there so I went outside to smoke a cigarrete. Later my brother joined me and asked me to take him to the store to get a few beers. We went to the store and when we came back, all but one of my aunts had fallen asleep. Some of my aunts even disappeared into another room to sleep. My mom had to leave at 8 o'clock and it was already 5 o'clock. My mom eventually got upset and we all went outside to talk. We decided to go to the hotel room and hang out over there since everyone just fell asleep. One of my aunts saw that we were leaving and went to wake the rest of them up. They all came outside telling my mom that they were still going to barbecue, and asking her not to leave, and other bullshit. My mom then told them, that she knows they are tired, so that she is leaving so they can sleep. She told them she had already wasted three hours of her time there doing nothing and she wanted to talk to her sons and do something before she had to go back to the nursing home. My mom also used the excuse that my aunt had said she wanted no alcohol in the house and my brother had already bought some and put some in the fridge. So one of my aunts told my mom, "Why does he have to drink, he should wait since you are only out for a few hours, I'm sure he can wait to drink, he doesnt have to drink." That pissed my mom off since, they didnt have to sleep either. I know they were tired but if you love someone, and you havent seen them in a while cause they are sick or in the hospital, even if you are tired, you will do your best to stay awake and see them as much as possible. My mom was really offended that her own sisters didnt care enough about her to stay awake. So already half the day had gone to waste, and we didn't want to waste any more precious time. We got to the hotel and ordered pizza and had a great time. Just my parents, my brother with his wife and kids, and myself, it was the best time ever. I never realized how much I missed having my mom at home. Afterwards I went with my father to drop my mom off at the nursing home, got in a fight with a nurse, but thats not important, then I went with my dad to sleep at my uncles. And all day, I missed Roxie, simply because, this day was our FOUR year anniversary. It seems surreal.
Sunday, October 28th, 2007
Guilt. So I woke up at 6 in the morning with my dad and took him out to eat breakfast. Afterwards we went to the nursing home and talked with my mom about what had happened the previous night. I started texting my sister-in-law to see if she was ready to take off back to McAllen, and just waited around. I also knew my aunts were going to show up since they were leaving on sunday too. So when my brother got there we were all downstairs again just talking and laughing. I then got up to go to the restroom and on the way, I ran into my aunts and uncle. I just looked at them and turned the other way and went to tell my parents that they had arrived. Basically, we all went outside and left my mom with her sisters, we didnt want anything to do with them. They had a look for guilt in their face, they would try to smile at me, and try to have small talk with me, but I just ignored them. They were only there for about an hour and my dad was getting mad cause he wanted us to be together, not them. So I went up to my mom and told her that I was leaving, and she got up and left her sisters inside and came outside with me. So we were outside with my mom for about 10 minutes and I could tell my aunts got offended and they came outside and said goodbye. After they left, we started talking and talking and talking, and we realized it was getting late. Then we decided to stay an extra day, simply because, my mom deserves it, so I called in to work and so did my brother.
Monday, October 29th, 2007
Goodbye. My dad woke me up at 5am this time. I took him out to eat breakfast again and then we went to the nursing home. My mom was still asleep so we stayed downstairs for a while to give her some time. We went upstairs and waited for my mom to get her medication, and take a shower, and get all dressed up to say goodbye. After she was done getting ready, we went outside talked for a while. My brother then got there and we decided to get ice cream this last time. The day was going by quickly and before you know it, it was time to leave. It was so hard saying bye to my mom. Everytime I would hug her, i wanted to carry her into my car and take her home with me. I wanted to hug her tight and never let go. My brother started crying, then I started crying, then my dad started crying. We all hugged together as corny as that sounds. Its just that we miss the family we once had, we miss being together. This has brought us all together (except my sister BLEGH) so much, and it sucks that it had to take my mom ending up in a nursing home to do it. We were saying goodbye for about 20 minutes, and then it was time to leave. I didn't want to say goodbye, I wanted to stay with her there. I miss her so much. . . .
Friday, October 26, 2007
My Father's Birthday, and my parent's anniversary. We left McAllen around 1 or 2 o'clock. This time I left with my brother, his wife and two kids. It was a fun ride compared to last weeks. My brother and I were bonding and my nieces were asleep which made the trip alot more quiet. I didn't get lost at all this time, so I was proud of myself. When we arrived at the Nursing home, it looked nice. It was a red brick, five story buidling, surrounded by tall trees. We walked inside and my father met us at the elevators. He then took us to the fifth floor and as soon as the elevators door opened, the smell of feces ran through our nostrils. We literally had to hold our breath until we got to my mom's room. My mom's bed was immediately by the door, and the lady next to her had the window with a view. My mom quickly teared up and started hugging us all. She stood up and told us to go downstairs so we could talk more freely. We went downstairs and went to dining area which had a sign that read "Towne Square". We joined two tables together and gathered around my parents. I gave them their anniversary presents, and they loved them of course. There was a room next to the "Towne Square" which had free ice cream so we all got ice cream and talked for a few hours. It was ten o'clock, so we decided to leave so we could look for a hotel. We found a Holiday Inn Express nearby and stayed there. My ten month old niece then got really sick and was crying for hours and kept throwing up flem, so I didnt get much sleep that night. I felt really bad for her, she is just a baby after all.
Saturday, October 27, 2007
Celebration. We woke up late since my niece was crying late into the night. My dad told us that they were going to let my mom leave the nursing home for a few hours so she could celebrate her anniversary. We were all excited, since this had been talked about for a few days already. My aunts were even coming up and they had promised my mom a barbecue and everything. So we get to the nursing home around 1 o'clock and my mom was almost done with her antibiotic. As soon as she finished, we left to my uncle's apartment to meet up with my aunts. When we got there, all my aunts were already there and they met us outside. We all hugged, and we were so happy to be together again. We went inside and one of my aunts was cooking for everyone. My mom told them that she was only going to be out till 8 then she had to go back. In the past my uncle and my brother had a few differences, and it made the place very uncomfortable. My uncle was completely ignoring my brother and myself, so it was a tense environment. Anyway, my aunts really got me upset because my mom was trying to open up to them, and talk to them about her experience, and some of them were ignoring her. They were watching tv, reading magazines, and one of them fell asleep. I was frustrated of being there so I went outside to smoke a cigarrete. Later my brother joined me and asked me to take him to the store to get a few beers. We went to the store and when we came back, all but one of my aunts had fallen asleep. Some of my aunts even disappeared into another room to sleep. My mom had to leave at 8 o'clock and it was already 5 o'clock. My mom eventually got upset and we all went outside to talk. We decided to go to the hotel room and hang out over there since everyone just fell asleep. One of my aunts saw that we were leaving and went to wake the rest of them up. They all came outside telling my mom that they were still going to barbecue, and asking her not to leave, and other bullshit. My mom then told them, that she knows they are tired, so that she is leaving so they can sleep. She told them she had already wasted three hours of her time there doing nothing and she wanted to talk to her sons and do something before she had to go back to the nursing home. My mom also used the excuse that my aunt had said she wanted no alcohol in the house and my brother had already bought some and put some in the fridge. So one of my aunts told my mom, "Why does he have to drink, he should wait since you are only out for a few hours, I'm sure he can wait to drink, he doesnt have to drink." That pissed my mom off since, they didnt have to sleep either. I know they were tired but if you love someone, and you havent seen them in a while cause they are sick or in the hospital, even if you are tired, you will do your best to stay awake and see them as much as possible. My mom was really offended that her own sisters didnt care enough about her to stay awake. So already half the day had gone to waste, and we didn't want to waste any more precious time. We got to the hotel and ordered pizza and had a great time. Just my parents, my brother with his wife and kids, and myself, it was the best time ever. I never realized how much I missed having my mom at home. Afterwards I went with my father to drop my mom off at the nursing home, got in a fight with a nurse, but thats not important, then I went with my dad to sleep at my uncles. And all day, I missed Roxie, simply because, this day was our FOUR year anniversary. It seems surreal.
Sunday, October 28th, 2007
Guilt. So I woke up at 6 in the morning with my dad and took him out to eat breakfast. Afterwards we went to the nursing home and talked with my mom about what had happened the previous night. I started texting my sister-in-law to see if she was ready to take off back to McAllen, and just waited around. I also knew my aunts were going to show up since they were leaving on sunday too. So when my brother got there we were all downstairs again just talking and laughing. I then got up to go to the restroom and on the way, I ran into my aunts and uncle. I just looked at them and turned the other way and went to tell my parents that they had arrived. Basically, we all went outside and left my mom with her sisters, we didnt want anything to do with them. They had a look for guilt in their face, they would try to smile at me, and try to have small talk with me, but I just ignored them. They were only there for about an hour and my dad was getting mad cause he wanted us to be together, not them. So I went up to my mom and told her that I was leaving, and she got up and left her sisters inside and came outside with me. So we were outside with my mom for about 10 minutes and I could tell my aunts got offended and they came outside and said goodbye. After they left, we started talking and talking and talking, and we realized it was getting late. Then we decided to stay an extra day, simply because, my mom deserves it, so I called in to work and so did my brother.
Monday, October 29th, 2007
Goodbye. My dad woke me up at 5am this time. I took him out to eat breakfast again and then we went to the nursing home. My mom was still asleep so we stayed downstairs for a while to give her some time. We went upstairs and waited for my mom to get her medication, and take a shower, and get all dressed up to say goodbye. After she was done getting ready, we went outside talked for a while. My brother then got there and we decided to get ice cream this last time. The day was going by quickly and before you know it, it was time to leave. It was so hard saying bye to my mom. Everytime I would hug her, i wanted to carry her into my car and take her home with me. I wanted to hug her tight and never let go. My brother started crying, then I started crying, then my dad started crying. We all hugged together as corny as that sounds. Its just that we miss the family we once had, we miss being together. This has brought us all together (except my sister BLEGH) so much, and it sucks that it had to take my mom ending up in a nursing home to do it. We were saying goodbye for about 20 minutes, and then it was time to leave. I didn't want to say goodbye, I wanted to stay with her there. I miss her so much. . . .