Unwritten Law of Friendship
So this is a rant post, so skip it if you feel like it, I'm still gonna be pissed after having an awesome night with Ryan, just because I can be like 10 different moods at one time.
So, yesterday Ryan came by around my last break (a little early) so I decided to take my last break then with Adrie's permission (she's awesome!... or something), so I could chat with him. He got his (2nd) new PSP which still had a dead pixel in it. Fuckin' Sony. So, I was getting paged back about 8 minutes into my break, so I ignored it... and one of my whiny co-workers (Cody) had to open a till to cover the line Adrie had. Whatever, shit happens. So, Cody ends up heading out for lunch and sees us outside and says "I'm going to kick your ass when I get back." Sure, we play mean all the time. So, I see Ryan off since Adrie probably still is busy and I can just see him later that night, anyhow. So, I come in and get back to work, then Cody comes back and I'm teasing him about having to get a till and Adrie says something like "Yeah, he HAD to go hang out with his boyfriend on his break... you know, the one you say is annoying at GameStop" while looking at Cody. I go "oh, he's annoying in there?" Cody's like "Yeah, he's annoying. Don't you have better taste?"
Stop.
Wait.
What?
I shrug it off, I mean why should I care what anyone thinks of him. I like him. That's all that matters right. So, I end up telling Adrie that Cody is pretty shitty for saying something like that, but whatever... I'll just pretend to be mad. Then, I ended up getting mad for real. I was cold to him the whole night, didn't help his crybaby ass with shit, and just left after he helped me find a mistake I made.
A word to the wise, there's an unwritten law in a friendship... if you don't like your friend's mom/dad/boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband... you just get along with them anyways, you don't throw out your distaste and not only insult the person they care for, but your friend as well. It's bullshit. I don't insult anyways choice in partners or their parents. It'd be like going up to Cody and saying "Hey, you're mom's an annoying bitch. Too bad I have the choice to choose my partner, and you're stuck with what you got." Do I think that? Not personally, I don't know Cody's mom, and even if I did... I'd still my fucking tongue out of courtesy to a friend. You know Cody gets caught up in this "I can dish it but can't handle it" shit with the fat jokes, wonder how he is when it comes to talking about someone that is important to him.
I'm not trying to badmouth Cody, he's still my friend, he's not dead to me or anything. I just thought it was a shitty thing to do, especially when I'm actually happy with how things are going and I truly could care less what anyone else thinks of my relationship.
I'm happy and if you're my friend you should be happy for me. You can tease me all you want, I'm down for that, but don't insult me or try to offend my happiness. It's in poor taste.
But anyways. Ryan came by after work and we ended up "watching a movie" and it got late so I let him spend the night. Despite the earache, it was comfortable and pleasant... and here I thought with the way I sleep, I wouldn't be able to share a bed with someone, but it was just fine. theheatyougenerate. Anyways, we had to get up at 6:30 so I could take him home before my Dad needed the truck for work. I wonder if my Dad knows he spent the night. Hmm. I'm going closer to the coming out thing, I hope it's only a matter of time.
Moral of the blog: Learn what's crossing the line, and stay behind it.
So, yesterday Ryan came by around my last break (a little early) so I decided to take my last break then with Adrie's permission (she's awesome!... or something), so I could chat with him. He got his (2nd) new PSP which still had a dead pixel in it. Fuckin' Sony. So, I was getting paged back about 8 minutes into my break, so I ignored it... and one of my whiny co-workers (Cody) had to open a till to cover the line Adrie had. Whatever, shit happens. So, Cody ends up heading out for lunch and sees us outside and says "I'm going to kick your ass when I get back." Sure, we play mean all the time. So, I see Ryan off since Adrie probably still is busy and I can just see him later that night, anyhow. So, I come in and get back to work, then Cody comes back and I'm teasing him about having to get a till and Adrie says something like "Yeah, he HAD to go hang out with his boyfriend on his break... you know, the one you say is annoying at GameStop" while looking at Cody. I go "oh, he's annoying in there?" Cody's like "Yeah, he's annoying. Don't you have better taste?"
Stop.
Wait.
What?
I shrug it off, I mean why should I care what anyone thinks of him. I like him. That's all that matters right. So, I end up telling Adrie that Cody is pretty shitty for saying something like that, but whatever... I'll just pretend to be mad. Then, I ended up getting mad for real. I was cold to him the whole night, didn't help his crybaby ass with shit, and just left after he helped me find a mistake I made.
A word to the wise, there's an unwritten law in a friendship... if you don't like your friend's mom/dad/boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband... you just get along with them anyways, you don't throw out your distaste and not only insult the person they care for, but your friend as well. It's bullshit. I don't insult anyways choice in partners or their parents. It'd be like going up to Cody and saying "Hey, you're mom's an annoying bitch. Too bad I have the choice to choose my partner, and you're stuck with what you got." Do I think that? Not personally, I don't know Cody's mom, and even if I did... I'd still my fucking tongue out of courtesy to a friend. You know Cody gets caught up in this "I can dish it but can't handle it" shit with the fat jokes, wonder how he is when it comes to talking about someone that is important to him.
I'm not trying to badmouth Cody, he's still my friend, he's not dead to me or anything. I just thought it was a shitty thing to do, especially when I'm actually happy with how things are going and I truly could care less what anyone else thinks of my relationship.
I'm happy and if you're my friend you should be happy for me. You can tease me all you want, I'm down for that, but don't insult me or try to offend my happiness. It's in poor taste.
But anyways. Ryan came by after work and we ended up "watching a movie" and it got late so I let him spend the night. Despite the earache, it was comfortable and pleasant... and here I thought with the way I sleep, I wouldn't be able to share a bed with someone, but it was just fine. theheatyougenerate. Anyways, we had to get up at 6:30 so I could take him home before my Dad needed the truck for work. I wonder if my Dad knows he spent the night. Hmm. I'm going closer to the coming out thing, I hope it's only a matter of time.
Moral of the blog: Learn what's crossing the line, and stay behind it.