from my point of view: partners do not have the right to dictate who you can and cannot hang out with, however, if they are your partner and you care to keep your relationship going and alive, it is your responsibility to care that they are uncomfortable with you hanging out with a certain person. It is your responsibility to listen to them whine about it. It is your responsibility to make them feel more secure by restating over and over again how much you love them care for them and being honest about what exactly is going on with the person you spend time with. I am used to polyamory, so I am used to negotiating that space. Monogamy is very different. If I was monogamous I would also reevaluate how important hanging out with this person is and if it is more important to me than my partner's negative feelings and insecurities. I didn't hang out with Gauge when I was dating Johnny though I wanted to, because I knew Johnny would be upset. When it became more important for me to go to Gauge and disregard Johnny's feelings on the subject, it was the time we broke up.
I know you broke up with Cobi by now, but I just wanted to put in my own two cents about this issue. I also don't think this is final for the two of you.
I know you broke up with Cobi by now, but I just wanted to put in my own two cents about this issue. I also don't think this is final for the two of you.
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