Here I am again...
So for the last year I've been adding to my life lessons in one particular category. And in the past week some things have gone down that have opened my eyes to knew things that I will now document for myself in the future and maybe anyone who reads this will get something out of it as well. I'm really sorry for the vagueness you are about to get but for the lack of embarressment for myself as well as a few select others I'm just going to have to leave the details out and be general in my writings.
So my friend Brittney is a perfect example, she's deffinatly hit some bumps in her life, made some bad decisions that almost cost our friendship. It is really hard to sit back and not give opinions and advice when you can CLEARLY see that something is BAD for your friend. When you love someone you feel its your duty to help protect them, you know they have to want to do it, and then follow through but if you don't point out red flags you feel like as much as it may hurt your friend your trying to lessen the blow for when the shit completly hits the fan in the future. Now, for my entire life I just so happen to have been blessed with a premature sence of good decision making and well, over all matureity, I'm not saying I'm not immature in anyway, but I have always just skipped some of the stupid stuff people my age went through and have had a pretty clear and responcible way of seeing and doing things. So because of this I've never really have been on the other side of that. The side where your so emotional about something your totally blind to things right in front of your face and no matter who or how many times your told about it, you just don't see or feel it. I've always known this experience occured, theres been times with Brittney for example I just felt like what is wrong with you, how can you justify this as OKAY and I just wanted to shake her to make her understand. But she was blind to it.
But for almost a year now I've had those blinders on about something. And i didn't realise it until the past few days. so here is what this all means to me then...
1) Well... we're all human, we all feel we all think, and sometimes we don't do those two things at the same time, because we can't. It's not our fault and when we come across people not thinking, be gentle with them, why? because when they snap out of it... either someone or something is going to disapoint them beyond belief. And besides feeling like a moron, that alone may crush them.
2)Sometimes it takes MOVING ON to let go of the past in order to see it as it is. And when I say moving on I mean that as an action, not as a mind set. Because mind and heart are two different things. Thats were it gets tricky, you think your over it but your not over it until your over it and you wont know your over it intil you go whoa I thought I was over it but I wasn't over it but hell yes I am now. And as a side note... I'm SOOOO over it.
3) How do you take what you'll learned and apply it to the furture to avoid the same thing??? Well I really don't know, and honestly I think its too soon to figure it out. I do have an idea though, I'll let you know how it works out once I get the chance to test it.
4) I've said it before but now it has more meaning, Life moves forward, move with it. Stop hiting the breaks because when the time passes you will NEVER go back, don't bother trying, so do your best to get over it because once the happiness in the past is gone the only time you'll find happiness again is in the future.
Love you Brittney, I hope you life continues to improve. I will always be here for you.
So my friend Brittney is a perfect example, she's deffinatly hit some bumps in her life, made some bad decisions that almost cost our friendship. It is really hard to sit back and not give opinions and advice when you can CLEARLY see that something is BAD for your friend. When you love someone you feel its your duty to help protect them, you know they have to want to do it, and then follow through but if you don't point out red flags you feel like as much as it may hurt your friend your trying to lessen the blow for when the shit completly hits the fan in the future. Now, for my entire life I just so happen to have been blessed with a premature sence of good decision making and well, over all matureity, I'm not saying I'm not immature in anyway, but I have always just skipped some of the stupid stuff people my age went through and have had a pretty clear and responcible way of seeing and doing things. So because of this I've never really have been on the other side of that. The side where your so emotional about something your totally blind to things right in front of your face and no matter who or how many times your told about it, you just don't see or feel it. I've always known this experience occured, theres been times with Brittney for example I just felt like what is wrong with you, how can you justify this as OKAY and I just wanted to shake her to make her understand. But she was blind to it.
But for almost a year now I've had those blinders on about something. And i didn't realise it until the past few days. so here is what this all means to me then...
1) Well... we're all human, we all feel we all think, and sometimes we don't do those two things at the same time, because we can't. It's not our fault and when we come across people not thinking, be gentle with them, why? because when they snap out of it... either someone or something is going to disapoint them beyond belief. And besides feeling like a moron, that alone may crush them.
2)Sometimes it takes MOVING ON to let go of the past in order to see it as it is. And when I say moving on I mean that as an action, not as a mind set. Because mind and heart are two different things. Thats were it gets tricky, you think your over it but your not over it until your over it and you wont know your over it intil you go whoa I thought I was over it but I wasn't over it but hell yes I am now. And as a side note... I'm SOOOO over it.
3) How do you take what you'll learned and apply it to the furture to avoid the same thing??? Well I really don't know, and honestly I think its too soon to figure it out. I do have an idea though, I'll let you know how it works out once I get the chance to test it.
4) I've said it before but now it has more meaning, Life moves forward, move with it. Stop hiting the breaks because when the time passes you will NEVER go back, don't bother trying, so do your best to get over it because once the happiness in the past is gone the only time you'll find happiness again is in the future.
Love you Brittney, I hope you life continues to improve. I will always be here for you.