To punk or not to punk...
So, I was sitting here late last night putting up Carmen's site (http://www.carmenluvana.com -- not even remotely work safe), and I read keelamonster's response to my post complaining that I'd never understand women.
She said, and I quote, "if you let us discuss stuff and you don't fix it, don't be surprised when we don't think of you as a guy we could date."
This is a puzzling situation for me.
I have a lot of women I consider friends, have no intention of dating, and am happy to be friends with them. But I am finding that more and more often I am in that friend zone with all the women I know. Which is fine, but it's not getting my desired result.
So, here's my quandry, although I have many female friends, should I be the asshole that most girls are looking for? I don't think I can pull this off well since it's not really in my nature and doesn't align with my vision of what I want to be in the world, but being a bit more of an asshole, a guy's guy, might get more women interested in me as a dating partner instead of a friend.
Or I can continue to be friends with all the women I know. Although there are many women I know who I intend to remain friends with, in a couple of cases I think the question is clear: "Am I willing to give up what I have (friendship) to have what I want (dating -- women on the hotch, as it can be so eloquently described)"?
That's something for me to think about and ponder over some beer this weekend.
Do I want the chicks or the friends?
Can I have both?
Am I alright with my friends not being friends if I make clear my intention to date them?
I don't know the answer to any of those questions right now.
Much to think about.
-tpg
She said, and I quote, "if you let us discuss stuff and you don't fix it, don't be surprised when we don't think of you as a guy we could date."
This is a puzzling situation for me.
I have a lot of women I consider friends, have no intention of dating, and am happy to be friends with them. But I am finding that more and more often I am in that friend zone with all the women I know. Which is fine, but it's not getting my desired result.
So, here's my quandry, although I have many female friends, should I be the asshole that most girls are looking for? I don't think I can pull this off well since it's not really in my nature and doesn't align with my vision of what I want to be in the world, but being a bit more of an asshole, a guy's guy, might get more women interested in me as a dating partner instead of a friend.
Or I can continue to be friends with all the women I know. Although there are many women I know who I intend to remain friends with, in a couple of cases I think the question is clear: "Am I willing to give up what I have (friendship) to have what I want (dating -- women on the hotch, as it can be so eloquently described)"?
That's something for me to think about and ponder over some beer this weekend.
Do I want the chicks or the friends?
Can I have both?
Am I alright with my friends not being friends if I make clear my intention to date them?
I don't know the answer to any of those questions right now.
Much to think about.
-tpg