Originally published at Enemy of Entropy. You can comment here or there.

First, a ran­dom thought:
“If only we’d stop try­ing to be happy we could have a pretty good time.” Edith Whar­ton
And now, the actual content:
I have referred to The Man Diet sev­eral times in var­i­ous places as some­thing I have done and rec­om­mend. After explain­ing it sev­ ( Read more... )

I have referred to The Man Diet several times as something I have done and recommend. After explaining it several times, I’ve decided to write it up here and just refer people to the article.

I call it the Man Diet, but that’s really a misnomer. It should be an SO Diet or Relationship Diet or something like that. It just doesn’t roll off the ( Read more... )

This began as a comment in misia's journal ( Read more... )

At the first session my life partner and I had with a therapist six years ago, trying to deal with issues that largely caused by one of those DQs, I said, "The first step in treating snakebite is to get the damned snake off your leg ( Read more... )

I said this in a comment yesterday:
I work through things by writing about them. I find that doing so with feedback from others works best. And hell, the only way that anything good can come of this nastiness is for SOMEONE to learn from our mistakes.It's true ( Read more... )

My pain is mine. My process is mine ( Read more... )

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