Wedding Rant and Wonderful Shower
I am freaking out completely! The shul, where my wedding ceremony will be held, had some minor water damage as in white peeling paint on parts of the ceiling when i first looked at it in April. I tried to convince the caterer to write on the contract that if the shul was not fixed on time he should hire a crew to cover the damage with tapestry. He would not write that but he did write that the shul's ceiling would be fixed by a date earlier than my wedding. Despite our trying to see the shul many times between now and April we were only able to get inside this past Friday. Now the peeling paint has become large brown holes, two wall panelings are spackled with white over light brown paint, and there is scaffolding all over the front entrance.
I am beyond upset because the caterer, the only person I left a deposit and have a contract with, is claiming he has no control over the way the shul looks and that he will pay our florist to "fix" the problem. I heard the florists "solution" and it involved distracting from the ugly by dimming the lights and lighting up the back of the chuppah. I want them to either hire a crew to hang tapestry to cover the shul's ceiling and ugly wall, offer me a lot of stuff to make this situation better, or charge me a lot less. How dare the caterer know that the condition of the shul was a concern to me, know that the shul looked like it did, and not let us know until a week before the wedding! How dare anyone do that to a bride!
Reuben, whom I can't speak directly to, and can only text or email until our wedding day, has told me to not think about the situation and let his brother-in-law handle it. His brother-in-law is great, but he is currently in Hong Kong and how can I not feak out?! Reuben's sister has been thoughtful enough to call me and let me bitch for hours. She is about seven weeks pregnant and was ready to show up at the caterer's other events this weekend to throw a shit fit, as am I, but Reuben and her husband are probably doing the right thing by keeping us away.
I am beyond frusturated because in April I saw that the Shul had some minor damage, I did what I knew how to do to get myself the pretty ceremony I wanted which was having the shul's damage addressed in the contract and following up by trying to visit the shul and monitor their progress. Now the shul looks a hundred times worse and no matter how much everyone tells me that no one is looking at the ceiling, the yucky wall, or the entrance it does not make feel any better about not having the pretty wedding site I did everything in my power to arrange. I am making myself so angry, because it is all I can do not to cry everytime I thought about it. The minute they let me into the shul on friday I burst into tears. I was prepared for the damage not to be fixed but I could not have imagined how much uglier it had become. I may be getting married in what looks like a subway tunnel with some stained glass and flowers everywhere. I know every bride has a horror story they look back and laugh at, but as this point it just makes me weak and sick. Sorry for the mellow dramatic bridezilla talk, the wedding has two other rooms which look lovely, still most of my flower money was put into the chuppah which will be in the awful looking shul, and I picked and paid for a wedding site based on the entire package of rooms and services. I just can't describe how awful this feels right now.
I am beyond upset because the caterer, the only person I left a deposit and have a contract with, is claiming he has no control over the way the shul looks and that he will pay our florist to "fix" the problem. I heard the florists "solution" and it involved distracting from the ugly by dimming the lights and lighting up the back of the chuppah. I want them to either hire a crew to hang tapestry to cover the shul's ceiling and ugly wall, offer me a lot of stuff to make this situation better, or charge me a lot less. How dare the caterer know that the condition of the shul was a concern to me, know that the shul looked like it did, and not let us know until a week before the wedding! How dare anyone do that to a bride!
Reuben, whom I can't speak directly to, and can only text or email until our wedding day, has told me to not think about the situation and let his brother-in-law handle it. His brother-in-law is great, but he is currently in Hong Kong and how can I not feak out?! Reuben's sister has been thoughtful enough to call me and let me bitch for hours. She is about seven weeks pregnant and was ready to show up at the caterer's other events this weekend to throw a shit fit, as am I, but Reuben and her husband are probably doing the right thing by keeping us away.
I am beyond frusturated because in April I saw that the Shul had some minor damage, I did what I knew how to do to get myself the pretty ceremony I wanted which was having the shul's damage addressed in the contract and following up by trying to visit the shul and monitor their progress. Now the shul looks a hundred times worse and no matter how much everyone tells me that no one is looking at the ceiling, the yucky wall, or the entrance it does not make feel any better about not having the pretty wedding site I did everything in my power to arrange. I am making myself so angry, because it is all I can do not to cry everytime I thought about it. The minute they let me into the shul on friday I burst into tears. I was prepared for the damage not to be fixed but I could not have imagined how much uglier it had become. I may be getting married in what looks like a subway tunnel with some stained glass and flowers everywhere. I know every bride has a horror story they look back and laugh at, but as this point it just makes me weak and sick. Sorry for the mellow dramatic bridezilla talk, the wedding has two other rooms which look lovely, still most of my flower money was put into the chuppah which will be in the awful looking shul, and I picked and paid for a wedding site based on the entire package of rooms and services. I just can't describe how awful this feels right now.