Comments | teachlikeroslin: Whoa, Back Here Again

teachlikeroslin

Whoa, Back Here Again

Jun 30, 2015 23:15

I was kind of reminded that this existed because for some reason (I really can't remember why) I got it in my head to look over my BSG reviews (maybe because I wanted to lose myself in that show again but Netflix got rid of it and that has to be the craziest thing Netflix has ever done because how do you get rid of BSG? The show that had a special ( Read more... )

i do self pity well enough, what is sleep again?, reflections 'n such, anti-championing

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rachg82 July 1 2015, 05:04:21 UTC

I'm sorry you've been feeling so bad. I think one logical thing to keep in mind regarding how her feelings changed is that the hormones your body produced at the beginning of a relationship change over time, and then after that commitment relies much more heavily on a stronger, deeper bond. I think it absolutely matters at that point whether both parties reciprocate each others level of interest equally--without those early-romance hormones to create intimacy & excitement--or it's impossible to maintain ( ... )

teachlikeroslin July 1 2015, 12:56:12 UTC

It's hard to get people to understand the level of my grief in this because no one else was there with us, you know? And understand exactly what transpired. And it's complicated for me because I only see two realistic possibilities for what actually went down over the course of those five months: I either made everything up in my head or she lied about everything the entire time ( ... )

rachg82 July 1 2015, 13:05:36 UTC

And it's complicated for me because I only see two realistic possibilities

I'm sure you know this, but I'm just going to remind you -- that's an All or Nothing thinking error.

Because in the dissolution, she started saying that nothing really meant what it was supposed to

Have you considered that maybe she's not telling the whole truth? That maybe her feelings have changed, but not to the extent she's saying? That she's only being so harsh about it to push you away & get you to stop chasing her? She may have other, private reasons for the break-up that she's not sharing.

teachlikeroslin July 1 2015, 17:32:44 UTC

Of course it's occurred to me. For months I was convinced that she only broke up with me because her feelings were too intense and she didn't know how to deal with them (in light of the other stuff she had been going through that would extra complicate everything). I expressed this thought to her. Multiple times. She denied it. Every time. So whether or not I think it's more complicated than what she's saying doesn't really matter because she has her truth ( ... )