I'm never going to be able to truly compare either way because I'm not living anyone's life but my own
I know. That's what I was trying to say when I said I didn't understand, but I'm not judging. I accept it, but as I can't conceive how someone could choose to live this way, I can't just sit back and enjoy the story and cheer her on, because a part of me wants her to change. Aagh, this is one occasion where English not being my first language gets in the way. I'm not explaining myself well. It's true that everyone should be free to make their own choices, but some of those choices can be harmful, to oneself or to others. I think what she's doing is harmful to herself, not just physically with the risks of illnesses and nutsos etc, but to her self-esteem, to her conception of herself. And since I care about her, I keep wishing for someone to do something about it. For someone to try and "save" her, and for her to want to be "saved".
That was a long-winded way of trying to say that although I know this thing with Alex isn't going to be it (because she's doing it for him), I still wish it could be.
I know. That's what I was trying to say when I said I didn't understand, but I'm not judging. I accept it, but as I can't conceive how someone could choose to live this way, I can't just sit back and enjoy the story and cheer her on, because a part of me wants her to change. Aagh, this is one occasion where English not being my first language gets in the way. I'm not explaining myself well.
It's true that everyone should be free to make their own choices, but some of those choices can be harmful, to oneself or to others. I think what she's doing is harmful to herself, not just physically with the risks of illnesses and nutsos etc, but to her self-esteem, to her conception of herself. And since I care about her, I keep wishing for someone to do something about it. For someone to try and "save" her, and for her to want to be "saved".
That was a long-winded way of trying to say that although I know this thing with Alex isn't going to be it (because she's doing it for him), I still wish it could be.
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