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[tattoolife2001]

Well i have started telling the truth to everyone and it actually feels god. I wrote Kate a note telling her the lies i had told her and then telling her the truth. I hope that opens the gate for us to ba able to talk some. I have also come clean with my family, I do not know if they think I am being truthful or not but I am being honest and I hope

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[sistersam]

first off Tom...I told you that you can talk to me. second. It's going to take time for your family and for Kate to adjust to what's going on with you. You've spun a delicate web of lies and to unravel all of that will take time. Trust needs to be built. I'm glad to see that you arent going to take your life...you realize that is a bad idea and it solves nothing.

Sometimes we dont have a rational explanation for doing the things we do...for instance. I stole a car with my man...drove half way through the country....why? i have many excuses...the real reason i dont know...or maybe i do but i'm still in denial to myself. Look if you really want to talk...you want someone to listen or give advice then just call me...so you know i can shut up and just listen. i want you to know i love you and i'm here for you...sincerely.

[mindlesstool_]

Compulsive lying is a problem the same as anorexia or paraoia Tom. I'm not excusing you of responsibility, or even diagnosing you as such. What I am saying is that if you are lying, and you don't know why. If it's about stupid, pointless things (like what you ate for dinner, where you were last night when you were just playing videogames, if you talked to so and so, or about things that didn't happen that you have nothing to gain from), you may be a compulsive liar, and it's a psychological ailment. It's a harmful one, a destructive one and a VERY VERY FUCKING hard one to get over. But try to explain, or I would be willing to if you'd like, that while you are entirely responsible, it's not an intentional or malicious thing. That it's a personality defect stemming from a deep rooted feeling of insecurity or inferiority. That it's in a way "a sickness", and no, I don't mean like cancer or AIDS or anything on that level. But as much as any purely psychological disorder is. Hopefuly, if people give a fuck at all, they'll be willing to

[earthen_witch]

you are taking a brave step to becoming a better person. Through everything, whether you were lying or not, you have always been my brother and you always will be. I'm so sorry to hear that you and Kate broke up, I know how happy she made you, I know how much you love her... if you need a shoulder to cry on, I am here for you. you have always been there for me when I needed you, and I will always be here for you. If you just want to go out and get a cup of coffee and talk, I will take you and I will listen. it breaks my heart to think of you in so much pain. If you need me, I will do what I can... I love you sweety....

[tattoolife2001]

thank you so much tara but do you honestly want me to sit there and cry to you about my fuck ups. im happy that i do have friends that actually care about me and everything but i dont want to bother anyone with my shit... its something that i gotta do on my own caus i really dont think i can talk to anyone about it ya know. thank you for the offer and if i do need anything i will call you or leave you a message on here or yahoo.

[tbragu]

I am working on forgiving you. Not for the last lie, mind you. that one is done and overwith, but just all of the rest, some that you never admitted, that i just knew about. rebuilding broken trust is a long process. I hope that you can show that what you said isn't just words, but a serious attempt to better yourself. if it is a serious attempt, then all of us, me included, will trust you again. if not, well, you know what will happen there