My big dilema...
So, right now I guess I'm dating two guys:Brett and Lyonel. And I'm getting worried that its going to come down to me having to choose one of them, and I really don't have any clue about who I'm leaning towards. I know I'm kinda freaking out a little early, but I'm my mother's daughter, and I worry. So, dear livejournal friends, please give me your opinion after I tell you all about each guy. Or just call my a big dork, whatever.
Brett: Well I've had a crush on this guy multiple times since 8th grade. Somehow our timing never really worked out before when we've liked eachother, until this year. We've only been out 3 times in the last month and a half. We are both really really busy people, and so its hard for us to find time for eachother but we have a great time when we do get together. (Two out of three time it has resulted in a sleepover.) We talk online frequently and he's a really nice guy. I've known him for a long time, so I'm not to worried about any suprises. We have a lot in common, and seem to be on the same page about a lot of stuff. My family knows him and likes him, so do my friends. He's just all around a good guy. We've been taking things slow physically, which is nice. He's really cute. Problem is that he's kind of hot and cold. It seemed to be that I was just asking him out, and I'm cool with making a lot of moves and stuff but I didn't want it to be a one way street and I was worried he wasn't all that interested. Also, he's had to cancel on multiple dates, but with ligitimate reasons. Then one day on facebook he untaged himself from a pic of us at the wedding, which means it erased the link to his profile. WTF? So like a week and a half ago I just decided I was going to wait for him to come around, more or less give up on it unless he made a move. Enter Lyonel
Lyonel: Totally not the normal type of guy I'd go for. Not to be racist, but I've only gone out with caucasian guys, he's filipino. I met him at the beginning of the semester in Ballroom. He was probably my favorite person to dance with in the club, he's an excellent lead. It also feels really natural to be his follower, like I don't even have to think. (We switch partners like every 2 minutes or so, so we know how everyone dances in the club and experience different types of leads/follows.) Well we never really said anything to eachother besides the basic small talk that goes on for the minutes we're together. Well I had kinda felt "the vibe" but never made a big deal of it. Well, last tuesday he asked me on a date. I haven't been asked on a date since Nick like last feb. so it was kind of a big deal. Well I couldn't go because I had to study for a huge exam the next day. Later that night I went and found him on facebook. The next day we spent messaging eachother back and forth, and then it led into us talking online. It was so weird cause like I spilled my whole life story to him and vice/versa including all the garbage with ian, nick, and dave. He picked me up to go to the masquerade ball on friday, but not really as a date, we danced together a few times but we also danced with other people from the club. After we went out to chinese with some people from the club. One way or another I wound up spending the night at his house. I didn't have sex with him, but it did move quite a bit faster than with brett. The next morning he brought me breakfast while I was in bed, but I was still sleeping so I never got around to eating it. He's said some of the sweetest stuff to in the past week. Anything from how I'm more beautiful everytime he sees me, to how great of a dancer I am. He didn't get a chance to call me on sunday so he sent me this cute e-card online that just made my day saying he wishes he could reach through the comp and hug me. He wants to see me frequently and makes attempts to do so. He's affectionate. We're already acting kind of like a couple which is really really odd considering we've hardly known eachother. Like I'm going over to his house on Wednesday and we're going to cook dinner cause he doesn't really know how to. He's a senior this year and may be going to grad school at berkley next year... He's had a LOT more partners than I have. I haven't known him that long, for all I know he's feeding me line after line, or he might be totally different than how he seems (aka nick). We don't have any mutual friends. Culturally we are different. But, he came over last night and he, juli, and I talked for two hours, those two almost talked more than I did. And she said she liked him more than brett, which is a very big deal. If I want to keep up in this ballroom dancing thing, and want to make it a big part of my life, which I do, I want the person I'm with to be able to dance with me, which Lyonel could. The really odd part is that he went from saying on friday night that we'll keep me going to his house on the DL so as not to start rumors in the club. But by saturday morning he was like if you want a relationship let me know and that he wishes he could wake up to my face every morning. But he's still currently avoiding telling his friends about me at this point.
Well then last night, brett IMs me and asks to see me on thursday night. I said yes, but now i remember that I'm going to harry potter and can't see him. So its just my luck that I have both of them are making moves. Like I sayits either feast or famine and when it rains, it pours.
So, If it comes down to me having to choose one I'm at a rock and a hard place. If I go with Lyonel I'll lose any chance I've ever had with Brett. I'll be giving up on the one time that our timing worked out, ruin what I've spent 2 months trying to build. If I go with brett I will lose Lyonel probably as a friend and more because we never really started out as friends. I'll also lose a great dance partner.
Do I just go with who ever says they want to be with me first? That seems like a really terrible idea, and not a good basis for anything. And then how do I tell the other? The thing is that Lyonel knows about brett, but brett doesn't know about Lyonel because everything happened so fast. I'm fine with dating both of them for the time being, I'm just worried one will want to make it a real relationship (probably Lyonel.) With brett I feel like its a roller coaster with really high highs and really low lows. But with lyonal its just all pretty good.
Oh and I had a date with another guy from ballroom tonight. He wants to go out again, but I don't really want to, and I don't know how to tell him. He knows about Lyonel, its kinda funny cause he didn't want lyonel to know about him (too late).
So? any ideas?
Brett: Well I've had a crush on this guy multiple times since 8th grade. Somehow our timing never really worked out before when we've liked eachother, until this year. We've only been out 3 times in the last month and a half. We are both really really busy people, and so its hard for us to find time for eachother but we have a great time when we do get together. (Two out of three time it has resulted in a sleepover.) We talk online frequently and he's a really nice guy. I've known him for a long time, so I'm not to worried about any suprises. We have a lot in common, and seem to be on the same page about a lot of stuff. My family knows him and likes him, so do my friends. He's just all around a good guy. We've been taking things slow physically, which is nice. He's really cute. Problem is that he's kind of hot and cold. It seemed to be that I was just asking him out, and I'm cool with making a lot of moves and stuff but I didn't want it to be a one way street and I was worried he wasn't all that interested. Also, he's had to cancel on multiple dates, but with ligitimate reasons. Then one day on facebook he untaged himself from a pic of us at the wedding, which means it erased the link to his profile. WTF? So like a week and a half ago I just decided I was going to wait for him to come around, more or less give up on it unless he made a move. Enter Lyonel
Lyonel: Totally not the normal type of guy I'd go for. Not to be racist, but I've only gone out with caucasian guys, he's filipino. I met him at the beginning of the semester in Ballroom. He was probably my favorite person to dance with in the club, he's an excellent lead. It also feels really natural to be his follower, like I don't even have to think. (We switch partners like every 2 minutes or so, so we know how everyone dances in the club and experience different types of leads/follows.) Well we never really said anything to eachother besides the basic small talk that goes on for the minutes we're together. Well I had kinda felt "the vibe" but never made a big deal of it. Well, last tuesday he asked me on a date. I haven't been asked on a date since Nick like last feb. so it was kind of a big deal. Well I couldn't go because I had to study for a huge exam the next day. Later that night I went and found him on facebook. The next day we spent messaging eachother back and forth, and then it led into us talking online. It was so weird cause like I spilled my whole life story to him and vice/versa including all the garbage with ian, nick, and dave. He picked me up to go to the masquerade ball on friday, but not really as a date, we danced together a few times but we also danced with other people from the club. After we went out to chinese with some people from the club. One way or another I wound up spending the night at his house. I didn't have sex with him, but it did move quite a bit faster than with brett. The next morning he brought me breakfast while I was in bed, but I was still sleeping so I never got around to eating it. He's said some of the sweetest stuff to in the past week. Anything from how I'm more beautiful everytime he sees me, to how great of a dancer I am. He didn't get a chance to call me on sunday so he sent me this cute e-card online that just made my day saying he wishes he could reach through the comp and hug me. He wants to see me frequently and makes attempts to do so. He's affectionate. We're already acting kind of like a couple which is really really odd considering we've hardly known eachother. Like I'm going over to his house on Wednesday and we're going to cook dinner cause he doesn't really know how to. He's a senior this year and may be going to grad school at berkley next year... He's had a LOT more partners than I have. I haven't known him that long, for all I know he's feeding me line after line, or he might be totally different than how he seems (aka nick). We don't have any mutual friends. Culturally we are different. But, he came over last night and he, juli, and I talked for two hours, those two almost talked more than I did. And she said she liked him more than brett, which is a very big deal. If I want to keep up in this ballroom dancing thing, and want to make it a big part of my life, which I do, I want the person I'm with to be able to dance with me, which Lyonel could. The really odd part is that he went from saying on friday night that we'll keep me going to his house on the DL so as not to start rumors in the club. But by saturday morning he was like if you want a relationship let me know and that he wishes he could wake up to my face every morning. But he's still currently avoiding telling his friends about me at this point.
Well then last night, brett IMs me and asks to see me on thursday night. I said yes, but now i remember that I'm going to harry potter and can't see him. So its just my luck that I have both of them are making moves. Like I sayits either feast or famine and when it rains, it pours.
So, If it comes down to me having to choose one I'm at a rock and a hard place. If I go with Lyonel I'll lose any chance I've ever had with Brett. I'll be giving up on the one time that our timing worked out, ruin what I've spent 2 months trying to build. If I go with brett I will lose Lyonel probably as a friend and more because we never really started out as friends. I'll also lose a great dance partner.
Do I just go with who ever says they want to be with me first? That seems like a really terrible idea, and not a good basis for anything. And then how do I tell the other? The thing is that Lyonel knows about brett, but brett doesn't know about Lyonel because everything happened so fast. I'm fine with dating both of them for the time being, I'm just worried one will want to make it a real relationship (probably Lyonel.) With brett I feel like its a roller coaster with really high highs and really low lows. But with lyonal its just all pretty good.
Oh and I had a date with another guy from ballroom tonight. He wants to go out again, but I don't really want to, and I don't know how to tell him. He knows about Lyonel, its kinda funny cause he didn't want lyonel to know about him (too late).
So? any ideas?