Interesting NY Times article this weekend...

…What studies - pioneered by John Gottman, a psychologist and emeritus professor at the University of Washington - have rather convincingly shown are the marital patterns likely to result in divorce. In his famous “love lab,” the Family Research Laboratory, Gottman observed more than 3,000 couples during ( Read more... )

Attracted to destruction, stuff like this still moves me.

Even though it's not true for me anymore, it still does.

"For Sabina, living in truth, lying neither to ourselves nor to others, was possible only away from the public: the moment someone keeps an eye on what we do, we involuntarily make allowances for that eye, and nothing we do is truthful.  Having a public, keeping a public in mind, means living in lies…
A man who loses his privacy loses everything, ( Read more... )

...but
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