boy + girl = ?????
Two days ago, the pony called me asking what's up, seeing if I am free to go out. I was in the middle of watching a movie with my parents so, not to be rude and just packing up and go, I declined him. Even when my dad said if people are asking me to go out, that I can go and they could just finish the movie (which wasn't really great anyway). My mom, on the other hand, started asking her usual 20 questions. Who is it? Is it a friend? Is it a guy? After the 3rd question, my dad interrupted her and asked why she needed to find out so many things about a person not even her potential son-in-law.
My mom said that she just wants to see who my friends are, to bring them over to get to know them better, their family history and background, etc etc., so she can decide whether I am hanging out with the right group of people. I mean, she never seems happy with the friends we or I make, because she will complain about something or the other. Whether it's about race, socio-economic status, habits, family background, she will have something to pick on.
I mean, I say, as long as I don't do drugs, rob banks, or do criminal activities, or do something that would endanger my life like drag racing or destroy the family name like becoming a prostitute, I think I'm doing good. So she gave me a long lecture again about potential dates being potential husbands. Come on, I don't think I'll be foolish enough to marry the guy after one date! But hey, I can't count out that possibility. Maybe I'm having too much sugar that day to cloud my better judgment, who knows?
So today, the pony called again to see what's up, seeing if I am free to go out. Then my mother asked me if the guy was courting me. Yes, courting as in considering himself as my suitor. Give me a break! Hahahha. She said because he's calling everyday, and I counted clearly that he only called me 2 times within the course of a month that they've been here. If calling two times is considered calling everyday, I don't know what calling everyday means. Anyway, so I decided to go, and let her be used to me going out. Rather than just playing while the cat is away.
So she asked me these questions, as in, are you going to be alone with him? Hahahha. I really tried not to laugh. Imagine my sister's grief when my mom kept asking me whether my sister and her best friend (which happens to be a guy) have something going on because they've been friends for five years. My mom couldn't believe that a guy and girl could be just platonic friends. And I have to tell her numerous times, that yes, indeed, my sister and her guy friend are really just friends because THEY ARE! No explanation necessary. My sister is friends with a lot of guys and they only see her as a kid sister and most of the guys have girlfriends or at least interested in some other girls. Same thing goes with my brother. He has a lot of girl pals who call him, sometimes write him, and my mom thinks that these girls are courting him. Hahhahaa. He may go out with one girl friend this week, and with another girl pal the next. But it doesn't mean he's serial dating. He's just being friendly and accompanying them when they're boyfriends are otherwise preoccupied.
My mom says she is just concerned about us making the wrong decisions. She fears that I might "pin feelings" on the wrong person, so before anything becomes too late, as a precaution, she would like to know the people (i.e. guys) before I date them. And if they're not qualified to become my husband, I won't have to waste any time or feelings on the said person. I guess....but what if I find that I don't like these pre-approved guys after I date them...what then? Well, I guess I should be grateful that someone is concerned about my well being and future (that I might have the best person possible to be my partner in life). But as of yet, I'm not thinking of a serious relationship. I have a different mindset. I think my philosophy on life, love, and all those things (if she finds out) would be too modern (aka weird and illogical) for her conservative thinking.
Anyway, I just am tired of explaining that friendliness doesn't equal flirting. And flirting is a bad thing in their eyes (in our Chinese term, "Hiaw" in Fu Kien, it's almost akin to being promiscuous). They call these flirty girls "Sup Sam Tim" (literal translation: 13th Dot as in "rose among thorns" kind of meaning but seen in a negative light...like if you're the only girl in a room full of guys, you're giving the impression that you are a man-snare...or something like that).
Ok. I may not be making much sense, anyway, I'm low on battery
My mom said that she just wants to see who my friends are, to bring them over to get to know them better, their family history and background, etc etc., so she can decide whether I am hanging out with the right group of people. I mean, she never seems happy with the friends we or I make, because she will complain about something or the other. Whether it's about race, socio-economic status, habits, family background, she will have something to pick on.
I mean, I say, as long as I don't do drugs, rob banks, or do criminal activities, or do something that would endanger my life like drag racing or destroy the family name like becoming a prostitute, I think I'm doing good. So she gave me a long lecture again about potential dates being potential husbands. Come on, I don't think I'll be foolish enough to marry the guy after one date! But hey, I can't count out that possibility. Maybe I'm having too much sugar that day to cloud my better judgment, who knows?
So today, the pony called again to see what's up, seeing if I am free to go out. Then my mother asked me if the guy was courting me. Yes, courting as in considering himself as my suitor. Give me a break! Hahahha. She said because he's calling everyday, and I counted clearly that he only called me 2 times within the course of a month that they've been here. If calling two times is considered calling everyday, I don't know what calling everyday means. Anyway, so I decided to go, and let her be used to me going out. Rather than just playing while the cat is away.
So she asked me these questions, as in, are you going to be alone with him? Hahahha. I really tried not to laugh. Imagine my sister's grief when my mom kept asking me whether my sister and her best friend (which happens to be a guy) have something going on because they've been friends for five years. My mom couldn't believe that a guy and girl could be just platonic friends. And I have to tell her numerous times, that yes, indeed, my sister and her guy friend are really just friends because THEY ARE! No explanation necessary. My sister is friends with a lot of guys and they only see her as a kid sister and most of the guys have girlfriends or at least interested in some other girls. Same thing goes with my brother. He has a lot of girl pals who call him, sometimes write him, and my mom thinks that these girls are courting him. Hahhahaa. He may go out with one girl friend this week, and with another girl pal the next. But it doesn't mean he's serial dating. He's just being friendly and accompanying them when they're boyfriends are otherwise preoccupied.
My mom says she is just concerned about us making the wrong decisions. She fears that I might "pin feelings" on the wrong person, so before anything becomes too late, as a precaution, she would like to know the people (i.e. guys) before I date them. And if they're not qualified to become my husband, I won't have to waste any time or feelings on the said person. I guess....but what if I find that I don't like these pre-approved guys after I date them...what then? Well, I guess I should be grateful that someone is concerned about my well being and future (that I might have the best person possible to be my partner in life). But as of yet, I'm not thinking of a serious relationship. I have a different mindset. I think my philosophy on life, love, and all those things (if she finds out) would be too modern (aka weird and illogical) for her conservative thinking.
Anyway, I just am tired of explaining that friendliness doesn't equal flirting. And flirting is a bad thing in their eyes (in our Chinese term, "Hiaw" in Fu Kien, it's almost akin to being promiscuous). They call these flirty girls "Sup Sam Tim" (literal translation: 13th Dot as in "rose among thorns" kind of meaning but seen in a negative light...like if you're the only girl in a room full of guys, you're giving the impression that you are a man-snare...or something like that).
Ok. I may not be making much sense, anyway, I'm low on battery