The Nature of Love
I grew up believing absolutely in the concept that if you love someone *enough*, then you want whatever makes them happiest, even if that should be them loving someone else.
Recent events (ok, I'm talking about the last seven years, so sue me) however, have made me wonder if that's true.
You see, I wonder about what would happen if your love turned up one day, and said "I've met someone I like. I'm going to go with them now, so goodbye."
Would you say "ok, if that makes you happy, don't forget to take your coat in case it gets cold" or would you attempt to 'fight' to retain what you have. I'm not talking about the cases where one gets too comfortable in a relationship and wants to continue because it's easy and familiar; I'm talking about what would be the pinnacle of love. The highest point one could attain.
Of course there are many middle ground areas here too. Discussing the subject is one possibility: but ultimately, are you not just trying to satisfy *yourself* rather than trusting the person you love to be honest?
It seems to me, that if the pinnacle *is* wanting someone to be happy even at your own cost, that would be directly equivalent with not loving someone *at all*, and not caring if they stay or go. Perhaps without the tears after they've gone, but still.
And of course, that's before you even consider practical issues like whether or not your love is trying to determine the depth of your love.
So I'm beginning to think that the pinnacle of love belongs to those who will continue to fight to earn and retain reciprocated love, rather than those who necessarily have to take things at face value and give up without a word.
Recent events (ok, I'm talking about the last seven years, so sue me) however, have made me wonder if that's true.
You see, I wonder about what would happen if your love turned up one day, and said "I've met someone I like. I'm going to go with them now, so goodbye."
Would you say "ok, if that makes you happy, don't forget to take your coat in case it gets cold" or would you attempt to 'fight' to retain what you have. I'm not talking about the cases where one gets too comfortable in a relationship and wants to continue because it's easy and familiar; I'm talking about what would be the pinnacle of love. The highest point one could attain.
Of course there are many middle ground areas here too. Discussing the subject is one possibility: but ultimately, are you not just trying to satisfy *yourself* rather than trusting the person you love to be honest?
It seems to me, that if the pinnacle *is* wanting someone to be happy even at your own cost, that would be directly equivalent with not loving someone *at all*, and not caring if they stay or go. Perhaps without the tears after they've gone, but still.
And of course, that's before you even consider practical issues like whether or not your love is trying to determine the depth of your love.
So I'm beginning to think that the pinnacle of love belongs to those who will continue to fight to earn and retain reciprocated love, rather than those who necessarily have to take things at face value and give up without a word.