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Today a spoke a bit with a young woman of my generation, in the hospital. She suffers from depressions, and has to care for a young daughter she dearly loves, and for her mother which is suicidal and suffers from depressions too, and the mother is in the same hospital. However, you often don't see the problems of the girl, as she has good self control and likes to smile and laugh. Today I adviced her to ler her real problems show. Simply to let it show that she's down and so on. I'm not sure now if this was really a good advice. Maybe I just put another weight on her. I'll talk to her again next monday to see what she thinks about it. But maybe it's ok, maybe she'll get some more attention now for the person she really is. What I think is that she's a strong woman. At least she looks like that, she has that kind of jaw and mouth that gives the impression of a strong will and capability to be stubborn. I'm glad she is christian too, I hope her faith will show her good ways to deal with herself and other people.
I guess it must be tough for some women to see value in Paul's recommendation for women to be women of gentleness and quiet inner beauty. I guess that even when a woman is willing that she might have problems attaining such gentleness and quiet inner beauty, especially if she has a hot temper. Maybe it's similar to my problem with being truly humble. This ideal was antagonistic to the attitude I had raised in me. I totally see its value now ... but reminding myself all the time to be humble isn't an easy task. It's actually not that hard to remind oneself to be humble ... sometimes all that is needed is to remain quiet. But to remind oneself to this ... this can be hard if one wants to partake in the same mood as the other people, which is held very often by a silent agreement here in Germany. Maybe it would be a good idea to seek some solitude now, and keep my helping to the few people I have gotten to know so far.
I guess it must be tough for some women to see value in Paul's recommendation for women to be women of gentleness and quiet inner beauty. I guess that even when a woman is willing that she might have problems attaining such gentleness and quiet inner beauty, especially if she has a hot temper. Maybe it's similar to my problem with being truly humble. This ideal was antagonistic to the attitude I had raised in me. I totally see its value now ... but reminding myself all the time to be humble isn't an easy task. It's actually not that hard to remind oneself to be humble ... sometimes all that is needed is to remain quiet. But to remind oneself to this ... this can be hard if one wants to partake in the same mood as the other people, which is held very often by a silent agreement here in Germany. Maybe it would be a good idea to seek some solitude now, and keep my helping to the few people I have gotten to know so far.