Some thoughts on needs, objectification, and the Magic Genitals Effect

[tacit]

If you venture into the polyamory community for long enough, eventually you will encounter someone who says "Polyamory is good because no one person can meet all of your needs. With poly, I can find different people who meet different needs, and so be happier

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Then why have a partner?

[anonymous]

So if we don't have partners to fulfill needs, why do we have them?

Re: Then why have a partner?

[horsetraveller]

When you've had a break-up and are living by yourself for a while, you come up with an answer for that.

Re: Then why have a partner?

[stevenredd]

Because your needs are your responsibility. Your happiness, your needs, your fulfillment....those are things you need to take care of. If you don't know how to do and make those things, no one else in the universe can do it for you. I am with my partners because we share our happiness together and share our fulfillment. My needs getting met are a product of my effective communication: "Hey, I wanna do this...do you? Shall we do that together?"

Re: Then why have a partner?

[benndragon]

To connect with a fellow human being on a very deep level. Everything else is window dressing.

Re: Then why have a partner?

[anonymous]

Yes!