Some thoughts on expectations, assumptions, and expressing a crush

[tacit]

So apparently, the vast, slowly capsizing shambles that is the Yahoo online empire has a dating and personals section.

I suppose I should have guessed that Yahoo has a dating and personals section. Everyone has a dating and personals section. The Onion has a dating and personals section. Hell, the Web site for the Southern Baptist Convention

Comments

[stitchwitch_d]

Yeah, it's in expectations and entitlement.

One guy hit on me for years. Told me explicitly things he'd like to do to me, was very blatant about it...and I liked it. Encouraged it, I thought pretty blatantly. He never expected anything, it never seemed to occur to him that I'd be attracted to him. He wasn't hoping it'd lead anywhere, he just thought I needed some positive attention, appreciation.

And he was very polite and respectful of boundaries, like when he admitted to feeling like it was a bit creepy for him to wank off when I was sleeping in the same room, and relieved when I said I didn't care as long as my hair wasn't all crusty when I woke up. (Maybe that sounds creepy, but he was giving me a place to stay while separated from my abusive ex-husband, and his computer was in the same room as the extra bed.)

He worries a lot about being creepy, and there's a lot of stuff he does that I would think was creepy coming from anyone else, but not him, maybe because he still doesn't seem like he expects anything, and that it boggles his mind that any woman would be crazy enough to want him.

[jonnymoon]

Wow.