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[tabloidscully]

Like most people I know, I'm not even the slightest bit interested in the holiday season. I did purchase gifts for B, the kids, and my siblings' families, but I felt like I was on autopilot. I admit my usual thoughtfulness and enthusiasm for selecting great gifts just wasn't there. Part of it is I never even receive so much as an acknowledgment

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[seraphprowess]

My work in retail, exposure to other religions, and increased awareness of my own family's social intolerance has dampened my own Xmas spirit. I give my mom and grandma credit for their die-hard enthusiasm bc there will be a tree and dinner when I go home, but I'm also really not looking forward to another instance of the 2 of them telling me that what would make their Christmas perfect is if my sister and I "came back to the Church." So there is give'n'take, and while I don't take what I have for granted, I also envy you for not getting stuck in too confined of an area with judgmental relatives breathing down your neck for several days. I completely support you only buying presents for those who you know for sure will appreciate them.

Oh that note, screw the Clan and screw your narcissistic brothers! They're NOT what makes it Xmas! Instead of thinking about what they're not providing you and your kids, think about what YOU can do to make Sephie's Christmas magical. More than who exactly was where, what Sephie will remember is the atmosphere.

You could get a small fake tree and decorate it with whatever you want. I have a 3-ft tree I pull out and plug-in every year bc I live in an apt, and it fits on a foot-wide ledge, and set-up and clean-up are super-easy. I pull it out of the box, fluff the branches, then to store, fold down the branches, shove it in the box, and wha-la!

You can decorate it with garland or make garland yourself out of paper rings strung together. You can make paper ornaments, maybe pictures or text of what's important to you. If you don't get a tree, you can decorate your walls, furniture, what-not. You could bake cookies or buy them from the store. You should set up a time to Skype your dad or anybody else you want to talk to, and they can wish Sephie, a Merry Xmas.

There are SO MANY things you could do to make this Christmas your own celebration. Point is, just because others are too blind to see the wonderful opportunities to celebrate it w/you, that's THEIR loss. It would probably take you days to sort through the results if you googled for xmas ideas. OR do nothing at all, if you don't want to. You're not SUPPOSED to do or not do anything; there's not a right or wrong way to celebrate the holiday, and like I said before, screw them if they can't see past the end of their noses.

[tabloidscully]

I did actually buy a four-foot tree, and silly Christmas music, and stockings. Screw it. I'm going to give the kids a good Christmas because it's what they deserve.

Thanks, lady. :)

[seraphprowess]

It's not "silly" to buy any of that; it's embracing the season and making sure you (and family) get the holiday you want/deserve. :)