I guess manipulative was the wrong word to use. It's slightly deceitful, but not. I think you know what I mean. I haven't had coffee. lol
Keep doing what you're doing, and letting him know that you love him as often as possible while continuing to teach him right from wrong. Being fair and balanced and training him to be an adult won't go unnoticed. Someday he's going to have to be out in this big world by himself. Letting him do anything he wants and teaching him that it's okay to be disrespectful or hateful might just be a hassle to them now but when he grows up... well... good thing Dad's an attorney.
Even if a kid with no structure lucks out and figures out how to have morals on their own, there are a lot of other life lessons to learn. When I grew up, I had no idea how to manage a house. I knew how to mop a floor, for instance, but I didn't know how to look at a room and think "Well, this needs to be done." That skill is extremely important for anyone, no matter what they do or don't do for a living. We all have to survive in our space. The reason I didn't learn it was because I lived with my dad and he did everything for me, whether I wanted him to or not. I visited my mom on alternating weekends and she made me do chores there but it wasn't enough.
My kids might think I'm a hardass sometimes but I always do it with love and I know from experience that they will thank me someday.
I guess manipulative was the wrong word to use. It's slightly deceitful, but not. I think you know what I mean. I haven't had coffee. lol
Keep doing what you're doing, and letting him know that you love him as often as possible while continuing to teach him right from wrong. Being fair and balanced and training him to be an adult won't go unnoticed. Someday he's going to have to be out in this big world by himself. Letting him do anything he wants and teaching him that it's okay to be disrespectful or hateful might just be a hassle to them now but when he grows up... well... good thing Dad's an attorney.
Even if a kid with no structure lucks out and figures out how to have morals on their own, there are a lot of other life lessons to learn. When I grew up, I had no idea how to manage a house. I knew how to mop a floor, for instance, but I didn't know how to look at a room and think "Well, this needs to be done." That skill is extremely important for anyone, no matter what they do or don't do for a living. We all have to survive in our space. The reason I didn't learn it was because I lived with my dad and he did everything for me, whether I wanted him to or not. I visited my mom on alternating weekends and she made me do chores there but it wasn't enough.
My kids might think I'm a hardass sometimes but I always do it with love and I know from experience that they will thank me someday.
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I remember when my cousin was little, and his mom made him mad. he told her "I'm going to run away and never come back for 6 whole years!"
Not only did he get over it and not run away but he's 23 now and she can't get rid of him. LOL
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