life with a drunk
Tue, 5 Nov 2013 01:12:42 +0000
anniemal apologized for getting so angry this morning. Things would be a lot more civil if she just didn't get angry in the first place about most of these things. It was Saturday when she couldn't find the tent stakes. Does it make sense to be mad about it Monday? Some things are worth getting angry about, and some are not. I can't see how this was. They had other stakes with them that sufficed. And it's two days later. What's productive about being angry two days later over something inconsequential? And is it ever constructive to be mad at people who are not at fault for problems you have created?
It is certainly possible that I could have taken extra stakes with me to Pennsic. But if I had, when I came home they would have been with the other stakes I took, and she would have found them right away, where we keep the tent stakes. No, she's put them someplace strange; someplace that made sense to her when she wasn't making sense to anybody else. (Or they're underneath other stuff in the van. Or lost, at the hippy farm.) Knowing she was also planning to go camping while I was at Pennsic, I simply wouldn't have taken them. Plus, since I wasn't taking the van, my space was extremely limited. There's more things I would have taken with me, if I'd had space. There's maybe things I would have bought there too, if I'd had space to bring anything back. But tent, bedding, food, cooler, garb, instruments, music, camera, electronics, and power - and a compact car is full.
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anniemal apologized for getting so angry this morning. Things would be a lot more civil if she just didn't get angry in the first place about most of these things. It was Saturday when she couldn't find the tent stakes. Does it make sense to be mad about it Monday? Some things are worth getting angry about, and some are not. I can't see how this was. They had other stakes with them that sufficed. And it's two days later. What's productive about being angry two days later over something inconsequential? And is it ever constructive to be mad at people who are not at fault for problems you have created?
It is certainly possible that I could have taken extra stakes with me to Pennsic. But if I had, when I came home they would have been with the other stakes I took, and she would have found them right away, where we keep the tent stakes. No, she's put them someplace strange; someplace that made sense to her when she wasn't making sense to anybody else. (Or they're underneath other stuff in the van. Or lost, at the hippy farm.) Knowing she was also planning to go camping while I was at Pennsic, I simply wouldn't have taken them. Plus, since I wasn't taking the van, my space was extremely limited. There's more things I would have taken with me, if I'd had space. There's maybe things I would have bought there too, if I'd had space to bring anything back. But tent, bedding, food, cooler, garb, instruments, music, camera, electronics, and power - and a compact car is full.
[This entry was originally posted as http://syntonic-comma.dreamwidth.org/636981.html on Dreamwidth (where there are
comments).]