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[syntart]

My aunt passed away yesterday. We were expecting it; she had pancreatic cancer for the last 10 months. Even expecting it, I'm still pretty broken up over it. I'm close with my Taiwanese family, and especially close with my aunts. She used to always be one of the ones at the airport to greet us when we arrived. She made the best dumplings in the

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[coppervale]

Sorry to hear this. Thinking of you and your family. ((((hugs))))

[syntart]

Thank you.

[kadymae]

{{{{{{Lee}}}}}}}

I'm tired of crying. I'd have thought that 10 months of prep would have made me cry less, but that's not how this works, I guess.

There's no one-size fits all way to grieve.

And yes, I snorfled over the bit about how your dumplings were made with love.

[syntart]

Oh, yes, they were ugly little things. But since she'd made the filling, too, they were delicious.

[ceciskittle]

(((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))

I love you sweetie.

Afterwards, she said our family's god said it was time for her to return to him, and a few hours later, she passed quietly in her sleep.

I know this is hard, but for me, this sort of things brings me such peace. There is something very beautiful in being able to hear yourself being called on to your next thing. I hope her travels are easy and she is well now.

[syntart]

Thank you. I agree, and the rest of the family has been helped greatly by it, too.

[t1tdave]

Knowing somebody's leaving never really seems to make it any easier when they go. But I am glad she felt ready and at peace. (*hug*)

I also know what you mean about poking the spot to see if it still hurts. Personal experience tells me it keeps hurting for quite a while, but that's okay. Poke it when you need to, cry when you need to, and try to keep hydrated in between.

If there's anything I can do to help, anything at all, let me know.

[syntart]

A very distracting D&D game tomorrow sounds like the best thing in the world to me right now. :)

[gregmce]

I think knowing in advance can remove the shock from the experience, but the sadness is still there.

Thanks for sharing all of this with us-your aunt sounds like a top-rate person. I'm sure this kind of remembrance is exactly the sort of thing she'd appreciate.

[syntart]

That is a very good description. I like that. I can still mourn, even if I knew it was coming.