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We just found out that we have to be out of our apartment by tomorrow. Legally they are required to give us 11 days after providing us with written notice. We have received no written notice whatsoever, about anything. And yet a sheriff will be at our door sometime tomorrow making sure we leave
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B) Read this website thorougly: http://www.orht.gov.on.ca/ . When you know about your rights you can defend them more easily. Call the 1 800 number and ask for advice. Do not back down. Confidence and knowledge are key here. Landlords will take advantage of you unless you know your rights and demand that they be upheld. Free legal representation is readily available and effective.
C) Suicide is not an option. Thinking about it is a waste of your time. It won't solve your problems and it won't make you feel better. It is simply NOT AN OPTION!
Talking about it is also not fair to Dan. The whole point of a solid relationship is that you both know that you are there for eachother. When you contemplate suicide, you're essentially saying that things are getting rough, so you're thinking about giving up and leaving him to deal with all the problems (not to mention losing you) alone.
D) Fate does not exist.
What happens in your life is a result of what YOU MAKE HAPPEN. You're smart and Dan's smart - you can make this work. Try hard and you'll find a place to live, a job, and live happily ever after.
E) Make prioritized lists of tasks with Dan and then attack each item methodically with determination. You will have items checked off faster than you ever thought possible.
Take care, and best of luck.
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B) I know my rights very well from the last time I had to deal with a shitty landlord, but when a sheriff is going to knock on your door the next day you have to leave, period, because they are not allowed to take no for an answer. All we can do now is fight for our rights after the fact, which we are doing but quite frankly there's not a whole hell of a lot of evidence that our rights were violated so we're unlikely to get very far.
C) If you had read other posts in my journal (which may very well be locked so in that case I can't fault you for it if you don't have an LJ account), or had spoken to me on the matter, you'd know that I usually voice those feelings with "...if it weren't for Dan I wouldn't feel I had anything to live for." I'm not sure who you are since you didn't sign your name, but it's likely that you don't know what I've gone through in my life, which suffice to say is more than my fair share of crap.
Also, I debate your point that talking about feelings like that isn't fair to Dan. If I never mentioned feelings like that, how could he possibly ever hope to help me get over them? If I was truly feeling suicidal I'd sure as hell hope I'd mention it to Dan so that he could help me, I think I'd worry more if I didn't tell him, that would truly be giving up on him as I'd be giving him no chance to help me at all. Part of a healthy relationship is helping each other when you need help. I suffer from chronic depression and Dan knows it and is more than willing to help me when I need help.
D) That's your own personal opinion.
E) Once again, you must not know how my life has gone up until this point. Things just don't go right for me. I've been lucky in that I've found someone to spend my life with. I've been unlucky in so many other ways that I'm not going to go into here because they're private and I don't know who I'm talking to. But I assure you, if my life continues to go as it has the entire time, more things will go wrong and the list will not get shorter, it will get longer.
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