Queens, I need help! ;)

[blindhurt]

I am at that point in the game now, right before the Landsmeet, when Anora is freed and in the Arl's Estate. Do I need to talk to her and Alistair prior to doing the Elven Alienge bit?

I did last night but didn't save because I got -4 approval from Alistair when I was trying to get him to accept being king. :/ Is this inevitable???

I just don't want to mess this up at all!

Sorry to be a pain in the butt. :)