Romeo and Juliet we are not.
Answering a question from a few nights ago:
There is a difference between wanting to be dating someone, and wanting to tell everyone you are dating someone. Just like there is a difference between wanting to be in love, and being in love. Unfortunately neither one of them is easily described in tangible terms.
I was once asked, by someone I was dating briefly, to describe the perfect relationship. Basically, what things should be happening in a good balanced relationship to keep it healthy, and growing? I described aspects like getting to know one another, and taking in new knowledge and assimilating it as a couple. Basically things that would continue to bring two people’s paths together, so they could become intertwined, and balanced by each other. This is what I can only describe as the mental piece of a relationship.
Next I tried to describe an emotional balance that I thought should be achieved as well. Basically letting both you and your partner know that the both of you will be there for each other. No matter what trials and tribulations happen, you’ll have someone standing there with you. Believe it or not, this often is the most difficult thing to become accustom to, more so as time and age march on.
The final thing I tried to describe is best shared in “existential, new age” terminology. Basically both of you need to be open to share the energy between the two of you. Everyone has their internal source of energy. If need be, you can describe this as a chemical reaction that moves through the body, to regulate, cleanse, and alter the body for growth. The description becomes more difficult when you try explaining how this energy can flow between two people.
Most people that have had some type of relationship can understand what I’m saying. Whether you feel totally charged after you’ve spent some time with close friends, or you feel a little light headed after dancing with that one special person. Either case is an example of how our energies ebb, and flow as we interact with those close to us.
This exchanging of energy is the difference between a superficial display of affection, and the real thing that makes you want to shout from bell towers. Yes, to the outside world, it’s hard to tell the difference. But to your close confidants, the people that are used to sharing and contributing to your energy, there is a world of difference. The harmonic has changed, much the same way that a tuning fork sounds different when it comes in close proximity to another fork of similar pitch. The energy of the person has shifted from being one single tone, to being a whole chorus of tones.
So the next time someone tells you that someone makes them feel complete, try thinking about my little analogy of the tuning forks. Maybe then you’ll understand that they have found another fork of similar pitch, and maybe, just maybe, they have the beginnings of a whole chorus.
There is a difference between wanting to be dating someone, and wanting to tell everyone you are dating someone. Just like there is a difference between wanting to be in love, and being in love. Unfortunately neither one of them is easily described in tangible terms.
I was once asked, by someone I was dating briefly, to describe the perfect relationship. Basically, what things should be happening in a good balanced relationship to keep it healthy, and growing? I described aspects like getting to know one another, and taking in new knowledge and assimilating it as a couple. Basically things that would continue to bring two people’s paths together, so they could become intertwined, and balanced by each other. This is what I can only describe as the mental piece of a relationship.
Next I tried to describe an emotional balance that I thought should be achieved as well. Basically letting both you and your partner know that the both of you will be there for each other. No matter what trials and tribulations happen, you’ll have someone standing there with you. Believe it or not, this often is the most difficult thing to become accustom to, more so as time and age march on.
The final thing I tried to describe is best shared in “existential, new age” terminology. Basically both of you need to be open to share the energy between the two of you. Everyone has their internal source of energy. If need be, you can describe this as a chemical reaction that moves through the body, to regulate, cleanse, and alter the body for growth. The description becomes more difficult when you try explaining how this energy can flow between two people.
Most people that have had some type of relationship can understand what I’m saying. Whether you feel totally charged after you’ve spent some time with close friends, or you feel a little light headed after dancing with that one special person. Either case is an example of how our energies ebb, and flow as we interact with those close to us.
This exchanging of energy is the difference between a superficial display of affection, and the real thing that makes you want to shout from bell towers. Yes, to the outside world, it’s hard to tell the difference. But to your close confidants, the people that are used to sharing and contributing to your energy, there is a world of difference. The harmonic has changed, much the same way that a tuning fork sounds different when it comes in close proximity to another fork of similar pitch. The energy of the person has shifted from being one single tone, to being a whole chorus of tones.
So the next time someone tells you that someone makes them feel complete, try thinking about my little analogy of the tuning forks. Maybe then you’ll understand that they have found another fork of similar pitch, and maybe, just maybe, they have the beginnings of a whole chorus.