Sigh.
Tell me something: if I'm not doing anything wrong by talking to someone who contacted me first, why do I get the feeling I'm the one who's going to look like the asshole in a friendship that probably shouldn't be?
The friend understood last night that it just wasn't the best idea in the world for me to go to the party. Maybe he'll stop by the meet tonight, maybe he won't, I don't know. Maybe we'll have coffee next week or something. People have coffee. So I find it unsettling that I get am IM from the ex saying that he's "not sure how he feels about that, and [he] told [the friend] too," like it's all my fault that the friend contacted me. I've decided that I don't care. It's not like the friend's looking to sleep with me or anything (Mama eleanor will get mad at me, but I've talked to the guy before this, and while I'm not fat I'm too chubby for his tastes), so I don't really think I understand why it matters. We're not talking about the ex anyway, except sort of basic, "Did (the ex) give you my message?" "No, he never told me that you wanted my email." That was really about it. There was other stuff to talk about, as friendly people do.
It really shouldn't matter, should it? I mean, in the grand scheme of things I can see why it does, but I figure he's the one who broke up with me, and it's his friend who initiated contact. So, really, am I doing anything wrong?