Ev's Transition
Ev's transition to Kindergarten and the baby has been good rough. She is seeking negative attention and has begun to randomly lie about things. She is not listening. And, she is doing these things at school too. It's not pretty.
The other day, we were trying to get Ev to clean her room (a never ending battle that usually ends with Ev telling us that she hates me, or slamming her door, or telling me that she doesn't care about losing TV or other disciplinary tactics). Her behavior was just outrageous so Kevin called her downstairs to talk about it. She said that she hated us and wasn't coming down. After a few minutes, she came down and said, "What fucking things do you want to say to me?" Later in the day, Kevin was upstairs teaching her to clean her room and she said, "Well what the damn hell do you want?" That is straight from the mouth of Clisty.
Getting Ev to clean her room is a continuous struggle. Right before her birthday, she was supposed to be cleaning her room. After a few minutes she came down and proudly told me it was all clean. I didn't believe her. As soon as I walked in the room, I could see piles of junk under her bed. I asked her about them. She made up some lie about why all the stuff was under there. When I called her on it, and told her that I knew she put the stuff under the bed so she didn't have to clean it up, she said in a shocked tone, "How did you know?!?" Apparently, at four years old, she had already determined I was a complete moron. I thought kids didn't figure that out until their teen years!
She is clearly worried about attention and change. A few days ago she asked me about marriage. I told her that our friends Amy and Anne were married, and she said she was confused. I figured it was because they are both women, but she said she was just confused because she doesn't really understand what marriage is. Then she asked me, "What if you and dad get married and you go off into the sunset, but the sun burns you both up and you die? Who would take care of me?" I told her it was taken care of, even though it's really not totally taken care of.
And to further demonstrate the strong will of my child, another story. On Halloween, we went over to the poopies. We picked up some turkey roll ups from Costco for dinner. I told Ev that she had to eat dinner or she wouldn't be able to eat any candy from trick or treating. She didn't want it. Eventually she said, "Ok mom, I don't want to eat this, and you want me to. What can we do about this?" As if I was going to negotiate dinner with her. I have to give her credit, because she was really diplomatic when she wanted to discuss it. Why is that she use that great tone and nice language to get out of dinner, but she can't use it with other kids?
The other day, we were trying to get Ev to clean her room (a never ending battle that usually ends with Ev telling us that she hates me, or slamming her door, or telling me that she doesn't care about losing TV or other disciplinary tactics). Her behavior was just outrageous so Kevin called her downstairs to talk about it. She said that she hated us and wasn't coming down. After a few minutes, she came down and said, "What fucking things do you want to say to me?" Later in the day, Kevin was upstairs teaching her to clean her room and she said, "Well what the damn hell do you want?" That is straight from the mouth of Clisty.
Getting Ev to clean her room is a continuous struggle. Right before her birthday, she was supposed to be cleaning her room. After a few minutes she came down and proudly told me it was all clean. I didn't believe her. As soon as I walked in the room, I could see piles of junk under her bed. I asked her about them. She made up some lie about why all the stuff was under there. When I called her on it, and told her that I knew she put the stuff under the bed so she didn't have to clean it up, she said in a shocked tone, "How did you know?!?" Apparently, at four years old, she had already determined I was a complete moron. I thought kids didn't figure that out until their teen years!
She is clearly worried about attention and change. A few days ago she asked me about marriage. I told her that our friends Amy and Anne were married, and she said she was confused. I figured it was because they are both women, but she said she was just confused because she doesn't really understand what marriage is. Then she asked me, "What if you and dad get married and you go off into the sunset, but the sun burns you both up and you die? Who would take care of me?" I told her it was taken care of, even though it's really not totally taken care of.
And to further demonstrate the strong will of my child, another story. On Halloween, we went over to the poopies. We picked up some turkey roll ups from Costco for dinner. I told Ev that she had to eat dinner or she wouldn't be able to eat any candy from trick or treating. She didn't want it. Eventually she said, "Ok mom, I don't want to eat this, and you want me to. What can we do about this?" As if I was going to negotiate dinner with her. I have to give her credit, because she was really diplomatic when she wanted to discuss it. Why is that she use that great tone and nice language to get out of dinner, but she can't use it with other kids?