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[sullen_hearts]

My mother's seeing someone. I keep remembering to write this post while I'm not at the computer then forgetting when I am, so since I'm here. It's been official for about two months now, I think? Yeah, probably since the very end of March

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[lara_aine]

That's lovely to hear about your mum. And that he seems like such a decent guy. And fair play to you for being so okay with it, because I think you can believe strongly in the reasons you gave for it and yet still not be at a place emotionally where you're ready to deal with it. Given what you've all been through, leaving the relationship aspect aside, just having a new person involved in your lives can be difficult.

But from what you write about her, your mother is amazing. Her resiliance (and yours) and the determination with which you both seem to embrace life. It's too short as it is. And again, those are platitudes easy to spout but harder to live by.

I don't really understand why people would be so disapproving. It's a cruel thing to say, but I think sometimes people like to imagine themselves the moral authority of other peoples lives. I mean if you and your immediate family don't have a problem, what's it to them? And even if they do take issue with it, they should repectfully keep it to themselves and recognise it's their problem, not yours.

Speaking of crises of faith, or whatever the appropriate term is, have you read C.S Lewis' A Grief Observed. It's a short little thing of reflections on the death of his wife and the crushing doubt in everything that came along with it. Most people I've given it to have found it really- I don't want to say comforting, but certainly it seems to reflect a lot of what goes through your head after losing someone incredibly close. A friend of mine lost his son to suicide a few years ago and said that it was like reading his own diary, because all the things written in it were things he was thinking but didn't feel he could talk about to people.
I think I have a spare copy of it somewhere, I can post it to you if you'd like?

Anyway, i hope your mum has a good time on hols!

[sullen_hearts]

Thank you :) And yes, he seems genuinely nice. And I think you're right and that's such a compliment, thank you.

She is amazing. And yes, embracing life isn't easy but it's either that or curl up and die and neither of us is ready for that quite yet.

It pisses me off because I know that if situations were reversed, she'd be so happy for Angela or Kevin if they were seeing someone new, you know? It's so dumb.

I haven't read that no, it sounds really interesting, I'd love to read it :)

She seems to be so far - every time she texts she has wine!